Do you think it is mean of me for thinking this?

I went to two stores this afternoon, the last one was a Walmart to get some yogurt, came out and drove off and saw my sister walking towards Walmart...kept going but I wanted to roll the window down and yell “Hot enough for you??” As I drove off. But I didn’t... I gave her rides for a year and a half, anywhere she wanted to go in this city. I gave her things and did other stuff for her. She ended up turning on me for not taking her to a casino to gamble and she gaslighted me badly.

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MrRobinson · 51-55, M

After my separation, I did a lot of reading about controlling relationships and it made sense to me. One of the insights is that people who like to please others are open to being controlled. The line is when the recipient of the good deeds goes from being pleased to expecting them. Then the complain etc. when they don't receive them. I think it would be realistic of you to see that she is a controlling, toxic person and you need to be careful of your boundaries with this person.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@MrRobinson No I don’t like to be controlled. She has problems, I felt bad for not going around her for 25 years and her ex’s mom told me she thought she was doing a lot better with some new medication. So I thought I’d forgive and give her another chance. My bad judgement. The only thing that changed was that she learned to be even slicker and more manipulative.