Does anyone else dislike compliments?

Even when they’re harmless and intentions are good, I rarely like being complimented. Compliments on a skill of some sort are okay (though I don’t hear those often), but people commenting on my appearance in some way makes me uncomfortable. Maybe because I don’t believe what they say, or maybe because I doubt the sincerity (i.e. they’re just saying that to get something).
I also don’t give compliments often - it always feels too awkward.
Does anyone relate to this? Just curious.

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Dancingxghost · 36-40, M

nah if someone does something good they deserve a compliment but being fair my compliments have a lot of sarcasm included

KatieKatze · 22-25, F

@Dancingxghost
I feel like I’m rarely complimented on things I do, it’s usually about things like appearance - something I didn’t really have a hand in creating. Maybe that’s why I dislike them - I wish I was recognized more for things I’ve actually put effort into.

SW-User

@KatieKatze I'm unlikely to be complimented on my looks lol but I still feel the person is wrong regardless

Dancingxghost · 36-40, M

@KatieKatze but doing something can be as trivial as matching an outfit or doing a really good lemonade so its complicated because on a day to day basis we live in a mundane world.
so what do you want to get recognized for?

KatieKatze · 22-25, F

@Dancingxghost
I was mostly trying to say that I wish people would notice things I actually do - rather than things I have no control over. You’re right - it can be very simple. I’d rather someone say “I like your dress” than “I think you’re pretty.” One notes a choice I made; I bought and decided to wear that dress. They are complimenting my sense of style. The other notes something I don’t have control over. I didn’t choose to look the way I do.

Dancingxghost · 36-40, M

@KatieKatze yeah but the person looking at you and saying you're pretty, didn't have any choosing on how they look either, I guess in a way they are saying oh you're so lucky you're not ugly as me or something among those lines.
and luck is not a common trait so..there's that