Do you choose your battles?

-Yes, bullies, though weak and insecure, if there is a good chance ..,should still be crushed specially if they target people who have a hard time defending themselves.,, @rckt148

@TessDun They always pick the weak ,the shy and disabled
They are to big of cowards to pick anyone who will stand up to them .
From my first day in school 2 twins started talking about my Mom being fat ,then another boy who's Mom and my Mom were best friends and she was fat too ,and a vulgar mouth
But she raised 3 kids alone (I would not have wanted to live with her either )
But when I whipped them all ,Dad was called to the school
I was paddled ,and then whipped when I got home
Dads take was it takes 2 to fight and the bigger man walks away ,,but if I felt I needed to fight ,,then I could fight him ,,
He did knock a few bullies Dads out when he spoke to them about their boys putting their hands on his kids ,but it only made it worse .but Dad hated violence (I think he almost killed someone ,,that was the story I was told by others ,in his day he was no one to toy with )
They never come at me one on one either ,it was always at least 4 or 5 of them punching and kicking a boy that wouldn't even fight back ,,,until the night I came home from boot camp
My Dad and I worked 20 of them over for jumping on my brothers and the cops stood back and watched ,they knew this was a long time coming
No one messed with my family again
I was only stationed 5 hours from home and made a point to come home often .
It got so bad they stood in front of our home and called Mom names ,and Dad only called the cops that did NOTHING
Mom had a complete gastric by pass operation so she could lose weight ,,she late developed thyroid cancer and had to have the gland removed so her weight was always and issue and I knew she was always just looking to be loved ,but after she lost weight ,she cheated on Dad ,so my life seemed like a damned if you do ,damned if you don't .
So yea ,,Picking on people that can't help how they look
That is a big no no with me
Thank you for the BA ,,as you can see ,its a very personal thing with me

While it is often advised to always choose to be the bigger man, if being bullied as kids, the tendency is to keep it all inside and suffer or fight back rather than to take the higher road. This kind of experience could really affect us, our views and how we react to certain circumstances.. But I do hope all is well and wounds are healed now. Thank you for sharing @rckt148

@TessDun Yea .I taught all my kids self defense
they have 3 steps to take and then its let them have it ,
1)report it ,give the school a chance to deal with it
2) I contact the school and let them know to do their jobs or don't call me when my kid defends themselves
3)if possible and I can get the school to give me contact numbers I speak to the parent myself ,,
4) my kid only uses enough force to defend themselves
restrain is always the best option ,but if they have to do more ,they have my permission

After I let my girls defend themselves ,the school took me giving them a heads up more seriously

My son recently had to defend other kids on his bus
My son is called out of class by the principle
A sheriff is waiting to talk to him
He says I just wanted to shake the hand of the young man who stood up to bullies ,,one of the kids my son defended was his
He has been sticking up for others since he was in Pre K
When there is something like this ,,they know my son didn't start it ,,but he is known for stopping bullies
No one ever bullied my girls ever again either

Girls spit on them ,,and on my daughters suede jacket
The school paid for it to be dry cleaned
I didn't even have to ask ,,they offered
the other girls were suspended ,my girls were not

That is a good thing. I am not a parent myself but I strongly believe that the best thing a parent can do to his kids is to equip them with the survival skills. Talking to the bullies parents is also a very sensible thing to do