Is it bad if I have a habit that I always check out men by looking at their ring finger?

@HootyTheNightOwl I also aware of that. But it could be two sides. We could never know. 🤔

@SW-User Exactly - which is why it's not a good idea to use the presence or absence of a ring to decide on his marital status.

@HootyTheNightOwl Even if I asked him, I'm sure it won't work either.

@SW-User Depends if he is seriously interested or not. A married guy who is serious about you won't lie because he doesn't want to lose your trust in him.

@HootyTheNightOwl Your reply reminded me of a man that I met here. I suddenly (silently) stop chatting with him just because he told me that he is married, but he is very much interested in me. He is very serious about that. But I feel like I can't continue to take a further step with him.

@SW-User Why not??? If his marriage is dead and he plans to divorce him/her as soon as he is able to, he deserves as much support as the next guy. We have no idea of what his marriage is like under the surface.

@HootyTheNightOwl His wife is disabled, and she may not live any longer. She tried to tell him to let her go, but he chose not to do that. He promised her that he will stay with her, and take care of her. (I felt bad because I don't want to hurt her). They are in an open relationship, which means that they can meet another person (she know that he likes me). He values freedom, and I'm afraid that he may not like the idea of in a non-open relationship like me. Although I haven't told him about that, yet.

@SW-User That's something that can only be hashed out through frank and open communication between the two of you, though.

@HootyTheNightOwl Well, I'll try and see.

@SW-User You've got nothing to lose by asking him about how he feels about it... and if he still prefers an open relationship, it might help you to hear from him how different relationships differ, too.

@SW-User nah you deserve someone that would commit to you and you alone, not you and someone else. Open relationships are crap, just a way of saying "I'm not able to be faithful to you"

@SW-User That's so true! Even though they love you, but they still want to hang out with others. What kind of love is that?!

@HootyTheNightOwl I think he will understand, but it depends on his choice. Also, he is much older than me.