Ever get ignored by someone you care for but then they come running to you when the person they chose over you isnt available?

Yes. Sucks, doesn't it? But turns out, it's a chance for you to influence that person in a good way. Make him/her see that there's such a thing called balance and it isn't right to make your life revolve around one person.

Being the [b][i]backup plan[/i][/b] is insulting... yet people still
Let it happen . Is that [b][i]little bit of heaven[/i][/b] worth your dignity ?

I try to forgive lapses in judgment by my friends because sometimes I lapse too.

No. I still get to have that person- and their mate I lost out to. This is the beauty of polyamory!

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time again.

All of the time that happens to me. But sometimes I’m not even a back up plan to most people

Luckily I have not but wow would that person piss me the hell off.

Yep. That's happened to me in the past. I'm not a back up plan though.

Was it a lapse? Or do you know for sure they ignored you?

Had that happen lots of times, just get used to it.

Yes, be wary