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When dating online, do you think you should reply to all messages (even ones from people you aren’t interested in)?

On dating sites you don’t always get to choose who messages you (some sites let you require certain things, like age), so you get messages from people you may not be that interested in. What do you think you should do, message them back or leave it on read?
I often respond anyway, often with the hopes of friendship if nothing else. Which I’ve learned can cause issues - for example I’ll carry on conversation (in only a friendly manner) and they’ll misread it as romantic interest, which i understand. If I’d message someone and they’d respond - even if they said they weren’t interested romantically - it’d be hard not to develop feelings. And of course, they often get upset if you say you’re not interested outright.
But I feel like leaving a message on read is jut rude without good reason (no one has to respond to inappropriate messages).
I know this isn’t that serious of a situation, but it’s something I think about sometimes when my mind wanders.
Mguinm · 51-55, F
It's probably best you don't respond if you aren't interested. Like you said it can create problems later on you don't want. I gave up dating sites. A lot of fakes on them.
Tminus6453 · M
Nah... no need to, many will still think you're interested just by replying to them and wont give up
JustcallmeNameless · 31-35, F
I think I'd only respond to the ones I think might be interesting
Elegy · 41-45
It's a dating site. I would only carry on conversation with a possible romantic lead. The rest I'd either ignore or respond with a simple "thanks but no thanks" type message.
Dionysus · 41-45, F
I find that responding leads people on. It gives false hope. I just ignore even though many say they hate it, I’m saving us both time.
SW User
No definitely not - it's too much effort, just respond to those that appeal to you.
MysticOcean4You · 31-35, F
In my honest opinion, I think is okay not to reply to some messages because there could be some that were not interested in. We do have an option to answer them.
It Happened to me also, that's why I give up on Dating Sites lol.
Roteampelbremser · 56-60
If it's obvious that it won't lead anywhere don't answer.
Or better : block them. Like in my About me.
Terrance · 41-45, M
I used to reply to all. But learned ignore is the best way. It's an accepted form of rejection with online dating
Eddiesolds · 56-60, M
I think you're doing the right thing.At least you're being honest to them.
Dan193 · 26-30, M
Always reply at least ones. Because that's the polite thing to do. Even to just hi.
SW User
be blunt and tell them you're dead inside
StevetheSleeve · 26-30, M
You’re better off ignoring them.
unknownpoetx · 31-35, M
no you should reject based on nothing.
the great decent guys that say hi can be just shy and they can be amazing people. but it's great for them that shallow judgemental bitches just disregard their messages so you may be doing a favour to many
56london · 16-17, M
Yes always

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