This is just so stressful sometimes.

We keep arguing and it's dumb stuff I've done everything to not, but it's always my fault somehow. It's just tearing me down

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Mamapolo2016 · F

It is stressful. And debilitating. There comes a time in some relationships when the arguing habit is so solidified that normal methods don't work any more to defuse it.

Is it safe to assume there's never be any physical abuse?

Plumouter · 26-30, M

@Mamapolo2016 no of course not. I would'nt put up with that or do that.
This is a friendship actually not a romantic relationship.

Mamapolo2016 · F

Oh. Still, the dance steps need to change. Tell the friend when you feel they are unfairly blamibg you, you're not going to listen. When they start, leave the room, put on your headphones, turn up the TV volume. Don't listen.

If they're teachable it won't take many such incidents, possibly reinforcement a few times when they lapse.@Plumouter

Plumouter · 26-30, M

@Mamapolo2016 it's both of us, I do know I need to change things about myself. I just hope we'll still be friends once I do. Thank you for listening though

Mamapolo2016 · F

Sure. Good luck.@Plumouter