As a heterosexual man...

Between a woman playing hard to get and making you work to be a part of her life and a woman who wants to chase you and wants to fit into your life where on the scale do yoy find most attractive?
Its not really a black and white question I'm sure but if you can understand my question and answer as best as you can

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LarrysReflections · 61-69, M

I'm WAY past this stage in my life, but here are my thoughts.

[b]Looking for honesty:[/b] Does she have any interest in getting to know me?

Hard to get communicates keeping me in the dark as to how she feels about me. Not what I would be interested in playing.

The other side. I don't mind if she drops hints of her interest in me. I may not have been aware of her and am open to considering/getting to know her. But don't smother me. I may not be interested for some reason.

MushroomFaerie

@LarrysReflections I have been a serious game player by the sounds of it. With men who I have liked and who have liked me back. I feel so stupid

LarrysReflections · 61-69, M

@MushroomFaerie Nah. Don't feel that way. Some men like the chase. It's a game for many. My response was with the mindset of looking for a lifetime partner.

MushroomFaerie

@LarrysReflections I appreciate that very much but Iam learning that I've taken it to the extreme in making men feel I don't care at all I see now. Very horrible, I never ment for anyone to feel that way.
There is one I think who understands that and comes back but lives his life and has relationships because what else is he to do?
I think I love him.
Its been 7 years of me pushing him away.
It's terrible isn't it?

LarrysReflections · 61-69, M

@MushroomFaerie If you really think you'd like to have a more serious relationship with him, then you should easing off the pushing away and start showing interest in interacting with him in a more serious way.

MushroomFaerie

@LarrysReflections he is now is a serious relationship.
It would be selfish of me to tell him the truth now

LarrysReflections · 61-69, M

@MushroomFaerie That would be true. It's a life lesson for the future.

MushroomFaerie

@LarrysReflections yes it is. Thank you, I appreciate it 🙂

LarrysReflections · 61-69, M

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