Can you be an incel without believing all those wildly offensive bullshit?

Incel means involuntarily celibate, and the community just seems so toxic, sexist, and racist. At the same time, I can understand the anger of never being loved by anyone. You feel entirely worthless, and you can't help but hate yourself if you've never been loved by anyone. So would the fact that I'm incapable of being loved by anyone make me an incel even if I don't buy into their bullshit?