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donontario · 70-79, M
During therapy for PTSD, I was told that I also have ADHD, explains a few things in my life, but I made i to retirement
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
what kind of symptoms @donontario
Winenot · 51-55, F
Sure do, my husband. Love this man I do but living with it was really hard for a long time until I truly understood the ADHD.
He has a terrible memory but really he’s just always distracted. Unless he’s really interested in something. If he is interested, he’s almost obesseve. She is impulsive. I have to watch what I say because I’ve come home to new furniture and a remodeled bathroom (well it was in progress) because I mentioned wanting a new, sofa, sink etc. The impulsivity can cause him to blow up too, rarely anymore but when we were a young couple I could push his buttons for sure.
There are things he does that I used to take really personally, I thought he was just so inconsiderate but it’s the ADHD. He tunes me out, will interrupt me, or we would fight about the same things. It took a long time and lot of me understanding ADHD. Now we work around it. Sometimes I need to count to 10 but I know the stuff I find irritating isn’t intentional.
He has a terrible memory but really he’s just always distracted. Unless he’s really interested in something. If he is interested, he’s almost obesseve. She is impulsive. I have to watch what I say because I’ve come home to new furniture and a remodeled bathroom (well it was in progress) because I mentioned wanting a new, sofa, sink etc. The impulsivity can cause him to blow up too, rarely anymore but when we were a young couple I could push his buttons for sure.
There are things he does that I used to take really personally, I thought he was just so inconsiderate but it’s the ADHD. He tunes me out, will interrupt me, or we would fight about the same things. It took a long time and lot of me understanding ADHD. Now we work around it. Sometimes I need to count to 10 but I know the stuff I find irritating isn’t intentional.
Winenot · 51-55, F
@NiftyWhite He was diagnosed in 11th grade but I didn’t really understand it when we got married. Also, he wasn’t taking medication. He started again (he had taken it in high school) and when I realized how much of a difference it made, I knew so many things I was getting angry for, weren’t intentional. He really doesn’t take it now but he and I have learned to adapt.
Fantabulous · 46-50, F
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
@Fantabulous yes the follow through i can relate to. everything is half done. he can watch movies though, tv, and sit through those but i’m not sure about a presentation.
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
My wife struggles with this and it is very challenging. She finds prioritizing tasks very difficult and small unimportant things distract her from big important ones. She runs late all the time. Grocery shopping and meal planning are impossible. Her room is a mess.
The condition is sometimes overdiagnosed in normal energetic kids, but it can be real and quite debilitating. What else can I tell you?
The condition is sometimes overdiagnosed in normal energetic kids, but it can be real and quite debilitating. What else can I tell you?
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
My partner has a lot of those symptoms too. He often talks without thinking and it’s embarassing at times (or else he’s just not that smart) and he’s VERY disorganized. He can’t take a moment to put stuff away or clean up the tools he was using. Extremely forgetful about stories he’s already told me 1000 times before. has obsessions about stupid things and lets everything else go. can NOT remember names to save his life. To find something in the house, even if it’s put away correctly, there’s no chance in hell he will even know what i’m talking about never mind know where it is. @Harmonium1923 Sometimes he makes comments that are rude and sounds arrogant or like he’s putting others down. For example his siblings got his dad gifts for father’s day and we took him out. He commented that gifts are lame and experiences are the way to go, not once but many times as if to put the siblings choices down.
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
It sounds like he has some really negative attitude issues along with whatever else is going on. My wife would like nothing more than to give our dads Father’s Day gifts but she can’t get through the process of planning ahead, ordering it, wrapping it, buying a card. That makes her angry with herself (which spills over to anger at others) and ultimately gets her frustrated and depressed. It is a tough cycle. But her heart is is the right place.
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
@Harmonium1923 Oh he has no idea he sounds rude. he’s prob not even trying to be rude. he just says what he thinks and i have to bring his attention to how people will perceive it then it makes sense to him. Btw the gift was MY idea. Otherwise there prob wouldn’t have been a gift from us. He called to order tickets which was great cause that means he got to talk to someone and he didn’t have to focus on anything that needs doing! hahaha!!!
Mamapolo2016 · F
A good friend of mine - in some ways it’s worse than a youngster. He calls on the phone...and a dozen times says hold on while he makes coffee or combs his hair or...whatever.
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Mamapolo2016 · F
@NiftyWhite Yes. Let me put it this way. My birthday and his ex-wife’s are the same date. We have discussed that a dozen times. He will call and say, I sent Dot a card, her birthday is Thursday. When's yours? I can’t remember.
I think of it like his brain is a trampoline and stuff bounces off of it. He’s just not in ‘absorb information’ mode.
I think of it like his brain is a trampoline and stuff bounces off of it. He’s just not in ‘absorb information’ mode.
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
but the funny thing is my partner will absorb info on other topics he enjoys, like a thristy sponge.
Mamapolo2016 · F
@NiftyWhite Sometimes people just repeat favorite stories because THEY like the story and want to hear it again.
Myzery · 41-45, F
I have known a couple of adults with ADHD. Both men. They start a lot of projects. One rarely finished any of them, the other did. Neither could sit down and watch a football game. They talked constantly.
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