Do not message me...
...and offer me your friendship if all you're going to do is stop responding after two or three messages and lose interest in me for whatever unexplained reason.
31-35, M
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I hate when people do that, not on here but I mean in general. I like when people explain what is going on instead of just disappearing with no known reason.... Whether at a budding friendship or after having been friends for years... Do you ever explain when and if you decide to drop a friendship??? I do!
SubZeroSlays808 · 31-35, M
@thinkbigaboutlife I hate it when people do that kind of thing on here, on FaceBook, during texting or anywhere really. It's just a terrible way to treat people and shows a complete lack of respect and consideration for the other person's feelings.
I totally agree, and will never understand why some people think it's ok to do that! At times, when it had happened to me and I would later see that person in person, I would try to be joking about it and making it sound like it didn't affect me, and they would reply ''yeah, I didn't know what to reply''... Well, for me, even if i don't know what to reply, I either put a thumbs up, or say ''I don't know what to reply here'', or something. Not just plain ................ (life line being deadddddddddddddddd.....)
Other times I have not seen the person in person to 'joke' about their 'disappearing act'... but after a few following messages with no 'responses', I get the drift... I will try again recontacting them a week or so after their initial silence, then about a few months later (so I will only write back 2 or so times more), then usually delete/block them after 6 months- 1 year of silence... I'm usually pretty patient.... (too patient I think!)
Other times I have not seen the person in person to 'joke' about their 'disappearing act'... but after a few following messages with no 'responses', I get the drift... I will try again recontacting them a week or so after their initial silence, then about a few months later (so I will only write back 2 or so times more), then usually delete/block them after 6 months- 1 year of silence... I'm usually pretty patient.... (too patient I think!)
SubZeroSlays808 · 31-35, M
@thinkbigaboutlife Yes, that is a lot longer than I would give the ghost. Usually when that shit happens to me, I immediately blacklist them out of figuring that if they were that quick to ghost me, then they probably aren't worth my time. Fuck people who pull this crap!
Well, there was one time (in regular email) that I had forgotten to answer someone. Guess for how long? For three years!!!! I had received to many emails for other stuff that her email was read but then pushed lower as other emails had come in... When I finally 'cleaned' my inbox, I suddenly came across an email that I hadn't remembered who this person was... OMG. I was so embarassed after I opened it and reread the email... I wrote back to her, profoundly apologising... She responded 'it's ok', but I never heard from her again... I deserved it. But I had never meant to 'forget' responding to her for so long...
If it happens to you on here, and you see they are online, could be that they read your message but after reading it, it doesn't show a number at top any longer, so I would suggest to try writing back to them. If they continue being online and not answering, then yeah,they are idiots just playing with your feelings. But if it's regular email, even fb, it could be that they meant well but just forgot to reply. Now you understand where I'm coming from. Maybe that's why I have so much patience... It was my only time that I waited so long. I have learned the hard way. Now I even message myself a notice on my phone to 'check messages from 'person' if i know I can't answer right away.
If it happens to you on here, and you see they are online, could be that they read your message but after reading it, it doesn't show a number at top any longer, so I would suggest to try writing back to them. If they continue being online and not answering, then yeah,they are idiots just playing with your feelings. But if it's regular email, even fb, it could be that they meant well but just forgot to reply. Now you understand where I'm coming from. Maybe that's why I have so much patience... It was my only time that I waited so long. I have learned the hard way. Now I even message myself a notice on my phone to 'check messages from 'person' if i know I can't answer right away.
SubZeroSlays808 · 31-35, M
Yeah, sometimes if it genuinely seems like they forgot or something, I will try to give them the benefit of the doubt and try writing them again. If they make dumb excuses or whatever though, then I will know they are fuckheads that aren't worth my time.
I would like to thank you for your sound advice anyway :) If I'm really being honest, you sound like a sweet and caring individual. If you would ever like someone to chat with sometime on here (about anything!), my inbox is open to you.
I would like to thank you for your sound advice anyway :) If I'm really being honest, you sound like a sweet and caring individual. If you would ever like someone to chat with sometime on here (about anything!), my inbox is open to you.
@SubZeroSlays808 thank you.