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Mamapolo2016 · F
I was not abused as a child, but I have some experience with abuse. And alcoholism. In a 30-day treatment program, I learned a lot, not least among them: as long as you stay drunk, high, or angry you daily admit the abuser's continuing power over you. Healing begins when you take back that power and is well along when you no longer see the abuser's shadow darkening everything you do.
A good counselor helps, but is rarely easy to find. Commit to test-driving counselors until you find one who speaks to your heart and with whom you feel safe.
If you were physically gravely ill, you would research, doctor-shop and maybe join a support group of people who have literally felt your pain.
This is every bit as important. Take back the reins. Don't let the bastards grind you down any more.
A good counselor helps, but is rarely easy to find. Commit to test-driving counselors until you find one who speaks to your heart and with whom you feel safe.
If you were physically gravely ill, you would research, doctor-shop and maybe join a support group of people who have literally felt your pain.
This is every bit as important. Take back the reins. Don't let the bastards grind you down any more.