Reading what you’ve said, I would say that while their intentions might have been coming from a well-meaning place of concern, their actions were not justifiable. You had not given any sort of consent to have your messages screened by an outside source, even if it was meant to help.

What would have been the better thing to do, is that person actually talk to you themselves, or at least have who you were talking to tell you what they wanted to do.

Sorry that happened to you. 🙁