Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

how to move on from someone you're obliged to keep in touch with?

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »
ThePenguin · 26-30, M
obligated?
blasphemy666 · 26-30, F
ThePenguin · 26-30, M
elaborate
blasphemy666 · 26-30, F
@ThePenguin the person I love is a friend of mine. I told them how I feel about them but they clearly said that they can't reciprocate. I was heartbroken and I tried to stay away from them in order to move on...but they explicitly make efforts to remain in touch, nevertheless...and after a while I start feeling guilty for avoiding them...and I start thinking that "what does it matter if I meet them this weekend?" or "I can reply nicely to them if they ask me a question" and stuff like that....but I know that after those meeting and those chats, I feel very low and depressed for a long time cuz talking to them makes me happy and again it evokes my feelings and expectations of reciprocation from them...which is not possible. I know it's unhealthy for me to continue doing this, but I have nothing else to make me as happy as they do.
ThePenguin · 26-30, M
you are not obligated to talk to that person.
blasphemy666 · 26-30, F
i know...
ThePenguin · 26-30, M
you don't believe it though
blasphemy666 · 26-30, F
@ThePenguin what can I say...my logical minds knows that I'm not obligated...and when the time comes, even this person would understand why I can no longer talk to them.... it's just that..it would be very weird to suddenly not talk/meet them since we have very very close common friends (who have no idea about us)- they keep making plans to hangout- all of us and have made us all part of their groups on almost all social media...so I keep getting updates about them....and there's a limit to which you can avoid something that has become as basic as whatsapp.
ThePenguin · 26-30, M
no your logical mind doesn't know that. It wants to be with that person. You can try to just stay away from the whole circle for a few days though.