You should say...let's talk , then you explain to her or whomever what you are feeling and why/ If you feel taken granted. State it plainly and clearly.if you have any ideas on how it can be rectified or how you would like to feel ...speak up if you feel the relationship is worth it. If its a true partnership your partner should understand and work with you on possible suggestions and or solutions to improve or make you feel less taken for granted. At the very least you will have discussed the issue and not let it linger.