@Tryingtofindabalance He's right. I had a fiance who relied on me to BE is happiness to the point he was losing his mind. All because he didn't learn to be happy and love himself.

@Tryingtofindabalance yep seen that happen..

I believe this is the longest conversation we ever had. By all means, I hope the rest of your evening is peaceful..

I’m not sure why we are discussing diagnosis of clinical disorders, or what types of people in society have the inability to care for others... but this getting way off topic.

Bottom line is this, i don’t care the context of every journal in the world, what I know is this...

Depression and low self image has destroyed past relationships... some people can’t cope, or will not accept help and creates a wedge in a relationship. Despite what you believe, this is a reality, look at other responses in this post... there are far more people agreeing than denying.., that doesn’t mean it’s 100% correct.., but there are enough experiences on here, including one who agreed as he was the one with the issues!

@Miram don’t think I am offended, I am all for constructive conversation, and would happy to have daily discussions with you

@SW-User but that’s exactly what I am saying... what happens when you become the old news... they revert back to the norm and won’t accept your help

ive found out you cant help others. if you try to help them or see the errors in the things they do or think they will turn on you.

@Lochlee It's def not limited to women. I think women may be somewhat more predisposed however, as a result of patriarchal culture which views women, as subordinate and inferior, even this day and age, unfortunately

That said, men can be needy and codependent, as well, and I've dealt with codepency issues myself, and the destructive relationships I've been apart of, not just romantically, but family relationship, as well, have certainly had an impact on me

And it's def beyond the type of self doubt the average person experiences

@dystopianAntihero ohh for sure, my experience has been with women, so I can only speak from experience, but women and men are no difference in this regard... unhappy is unhappy no mater the gender, race, or religion

@dystopianAntihero I hear you, yes - being in a culture where you are often the "object" - with your identity dependent on external validation may predispose women. Good point.

@MsAnnThropy Love isn’t just saying it... people say they love others with out showing it. When people hurt others based On thier own self reflection, it doesn’t scream love

@SW-User if love is telling me horrible things unnecessarily, rejecting support or just being constantly unnaccepting... then sure... you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink