Need advice. I just found out that my husband has been cheating. I have evidence of a few lies and been very much betrayed. Leave or work it out?
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Dan193 · 31-35, M
@TimSummers That's why you talk and your work it out for the kids. You signed up for this you pursue it to the end. You don't just throw the towel when shit goes south. The kids need a mom and dad. Just one parent is not enough.
TimSummers · M
@Dan193 So what you are saying is that all those kids being raise by just one parent are doing only half a job????
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@TimSummers Im saying that if you get married and conceive a child, you don't get lazy and do your job as a parent. Your main focus should be giving them a happy, full, childhood experience.
You don't need to ask a bastard if they would've liked to have a father. Most of them grow to resent one of their parents for not giving them the childhood we all deserve.
You don't need to ask a bastard if they would've liked to have a father. Most of them grow to resent one of their parents for not giving them the childhood we all deserve.
MeInCharge · 41-45, M
CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
I'm so sorry :(
Look, you have to confront him about this - assuming you have solid proof that isn't a misunderstanding. It's then a question of whether or not you leave him or forgive him, which may be a question of why he cheated.
And frankly... whether or not you're happy with your husband and your marriage.
Although this is probably one of the most difficult things you'll ever have to do, the decision is a fairly simple one.
Look, you have to confront him about this - assuming you have solid proof that isn't a misunderstanding. It's then a question of whether or not you leave him or forgive him, which may be a question of why he cheated.
And frankly... whether or not you're happy with your husband and your marriage.
Although this is probably one of the most difficult things you'll ever have to do, the decision is a fairly simple one.
Has home life been unhappy? Are you interested in maybe opening up marriage to include some swinging? If you were interested, he couldn't argue because he's already been cheating. Maybe 'Hey honey, you get to watch the kids on Friday night. Mom's gonna have a date night'...
Cheating is selfish, dishonest and wrong. Not talking about issues and trying to figure out ways to address them.
Cheating is selfish, dishonest and wrong. Not talking about issues and trying to figure out ways to address them.
TimSummers · M
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
DOnTs be CreuLs to HIMz
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MenS neeDs sexEs and LikelYs eitHer u is nOts GivinGs or He is BoreD
Let's HIs sexes WitH Ofher WiMENS BuTTS he Must wearS CondoMz wiFh You
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
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Raleighmom · 41-45, F
@DonaldTrumpet I guess you're a cheater?
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
@Raleighmom I DoNTz CaLLz Its cHeatinGz, Its SpreadINg the Aeyran SeeDz. WimensZ NeeDZ to UndeRstanDz SperMz is SacrEdz
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
A cheater cheats. Do you want to remain married and thus condone his cheating or not? If you are willing to put up with his infidelity then do nothing. If you do not want to put up with being little more than another mistress then kick him out.
xRedx · M
Well you have two reasonable options. You either work it out and live the rest of your life with that on your mind. Or you leave him. I think the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater" is very accurate. Personally, I would leave. Completely shun him.
SW-User
leave. seen it happen too many times. when confronted he most likely will get defensive. once a cheater always a cheater.. there s a good chance he's been doing it with a few people. or will do it again in the future.
SW-User
I couldn't live with a cheater. I wouldn't want sloppy seconds, because that is what you are getting right now. If there are small children in the family, try a marriage counselor, if not, say adios. 👋
Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
No simple answer, you are probably best talking to a therapist to talk all of your feelings through
Ellen · 46-50, F
I don't think there's a simple answer. Sorry. Me personally..I would leave.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Only you truly know if it's worth the effort. If cheating is a dealbreaker to you, the deal is broken. That is the big question. Only you know the answer.
As a divorced guy, I say it's better to try to save it. Divorcing is NO picnic. I didn't just give up, though at times I wanted to. Though I never got "closure", I know that I tried everything and got nothing for so long that it was time to pull the plug.
As a divorced guy, I say it's better to try to save it. Divorcing is NO picnic. I didn't just give up, though at times I wanted to. Though I never got "closure", I know that I tried everything and got nothing for so long that it was time to pull the plug.