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caccoon · 36-40
Yes, because he was a master of manipulation, threats, intimidation, and tiny doses of love enough to keep me hanging on.

SW-User
@caccoon Maybe you just need to reconsider your whole concept of love. I think we often mistake things that look like love for love, but they really have nothing to do with it.
caccoon · 36-40
@SW-User Yeah, it wasn't really a back and forth love. It was control on his end and love from my end... but really I think I was just using the love as a reason to stay and try to keep my sanity when he was so awful to me. I just felt trapped and the love felt like hope. Like desperation.

SW-User
@caccoon It's easy to think that it is our only option, our only resort, espeically if we never had many or any options in the past, I know that feeling.
I think if you had stayed you might've actually lost your sanity and not the other way around, it takes growth and lots of difficulties to overcome, but I think if we know from which angle to look at it, our struggles can help us become more mature and still somehow soft-hearted. :)
I think if you had stayed you might've actually lost your sanity and not the other way around, it takes growth and lots of difficulties to overcome, but I think if we know from which angle to look at it, our struggles can help us become more mature and still somehow soft-hearted. :)
caccoon · 36-40
@SW-User I agree. :)
I was definitely hanging onto sanity by a thread near the end, and I could barely function normally. And even then, I didn't want to leave. But I did. And I am so glad I did.
I was definitely hanging onto sanity by a thread near the end, and I could barely function normally. And even then, I didn't want to leave. But I did. And I am so glad I did.