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Xicsukin · M
Yup. Having a high sex drive sucks though.
🎶my mind, is telling me nooo!...but my booody is telling me yesss!🎶
🎶my mind, is telling me nooo!...but my booody is telling me yesss!🎶
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Xicsukin That's not what asexual means.
Xicsukin · M
@sarabee1995 from my knowledge asexual is somebody who does not want any sexual activity with another person. Doesn't mean you don't get horny though.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Xicsukin Umm, yeah, it kinda does...
[quote]a·sex·u·al
āˈsekSH(o͞o)əl
adjective
1.
without sexual feelings or associations.[/quote]
Having sexual feelings and just not wanting to express them is something else entirely.
[quote]a·sex·u·al
āˈsekSH(o͞o)əl
adjective
1.
without sexual feelings or associations.[/quote]
Having sexual feelings and just not wanting to express them is something else entirely.
Xicsukin · M
@sarabee1995 http://www.asexualityarchive.com/but-asexuals-cant-masturbate-2/
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Xicsukin Sorry, I have no interest in links out of here. Happy to discuss it here if you want, but no interest in links.
Xicsukin · M
The gist of it.
[quote][b]But masturbating is a sexual act. You can’t perform sexual acts and still be asexual.[/b]
Certainly, masturbation is a sexual activity performed using sexual organs and it produces a sexual response. There’s a misconception that an asexual must be devoid of all sexual properties and sexual responses and cannot experience sexual pleasure.
So, it’s okay to be asexual and masturbate. It’s okay to like it, too. It doesn’t cancel out your asexuality, it doesn’t minimize your asexuality, it doesn’t mean you’re faking your asexuality.
[b]How can someone who has an orgasm still claim to be asexual?[/b]
Having an orgasm does not, in any way, invalidate someone’s asexuality. An orgasm is a physical response to stimulation. It’s not related to one’s sexual orientation, it doesn’t require sexual attraction to work. To say that someone who has an orgasm can’t be asexual anymore is ridiculous. When a heterosexual has an orgasm, it’s not somehow a function of a heterosexual orientation. When a bisexual has an orgasm, it’s not a “bisexual orgasm”. So why would it be any different for an asexual? [/quote]
[quote][b]But masturbating is a sexual act. You can’t perform sexual acts and still be asexual.[/b]
Certainly, masturbation is a sexual activity performed using sexual organs and it produces a sexual response. There’s a misconception that an asexual must be devoid of all sexual properties and sexual responses and cannot experience sexual pleasure.
So, it’s okay to be asexual and masturbate. It’s okay to like it, too. It doesn’t cancel out your asexuality, it doesn’t minimize your asexuality, it doesn’t mean you’re faking your asexuality.
[b]How can someone who has an orgasm still claim to be asexual?[/b]
Having an orgasm does not, in any way, invalidate someone’s asexuality. An orgasm is a physical response to stimulation. It’s not related to one’s sexual orientation, it doesn’t require sexual attraction to work. To say that someone who has an orgasm can’t be asexual anymore is ridiculous. When a heterosexual has an orgasm, it’s not somehow a function of a heterosexual orientation. When a bisexual has an orgasm, it’s not a “bisexual orgasm”. So why would it be any different for an asexual? [/quote]
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Xicsukin You said [quote]Doesn't mean you don't get horny though.[/quote]
The definition says[quote]
without sexual feelings or associations. [/quote]
Sure, physical stimulation can produce an orgasm and that alone doesn't mean one is not asexual. However, being "horny" absolutely is the opposite of being asexual. Look at the definition. Its not just avoiding sexual activity, it is not having sexual feelings.
The definition says[quote]
without sexual feelings or associations. [/quote]
Sure, physical stimulation can produce an orgasm and that alone doesn't mean one is not asexual. However, being "horny" absolutely is the opposite of being asexual. Look at the definition. Its not just avoiding sexual activity, it is not having sexual feelings.
SailorMarz · F
Xicsukin · M
@sarabee1995 I'm slow and/or labels are confusing. All I know is I do not like sex, when it comes to a relationship all I care about is loving and showing affection my SO rather than wanting to fuck them, as to what I'm meant to be called idk.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Xicsukin Totally get that. I can't stand labels either. And through most of this, I didn't know we were talking about you. I was just discussing the definition of a word! Sorry.
Xicsukin · M
@sarabee1995 well the question was "are you asexual" so I assumed we were lol none to worry no offense has been taken