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JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Oh, what is wrong, my friend?
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@JoyfulSilence Just wish my boyfriend could have some empathy for me.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Oh, so sorry. Hugs.
Find a kitty, it will love you.
Find a kitty, it will love you.
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@JoyfulSilence Thanks. I have one, and she does :)
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Purrr.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Also, talk to your boyfriend about how you feel.
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@JoyfulSilence I've tried. I really have.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
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@JoyfulSilence Thank you. It feels very overwhelming.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Well, see if you can make a change. Or air your grievances more or again. I do not know what to say since I am not in a relationship and never have been. I'd like to think, though, if I were unhappy and change did not occur I would leave her.
I have worked at the same place for 19 years. I have my grievances. I am mostly silent since I figure if I do not like it I can always leave, right? But I complain a little at times. My boss bitches about his bosses (his office is near mine and I hear it!). So if I bitch to him I am sure he understands. I do not want to change jobs now, though, after so long. No, I will stay until retirement, I think.
I have worked at the same place for 19 years. I have my grievances. I am mostly silent since I figure if I do not like it I can always leave, right? But I complain a little at times. My boss bitches about his bosses (his office is near mine and I hear it!). So if I bitch to him I am sure he understands. I do not want to change jobs now, though, after so long. No, I will stay until retirement, I think.
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@JoyfulSilence I just had to report my supervisor to her boss today for neglect. I am so damn stressed.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Maybe they will replace her with somebody better. Sorry for the work stress.
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I am under stress at work, but not from asshole bosses, but from poor planning and a tight schedule. The organization made a promise to people (they even put it as a short term objective in their strategic plan!). So now we must deliver. Yet it was all theoretical. They made the promises before any research was done on the methods. I am doing most of the research. I think I will succeed in my research, but it probably will be delayed. And there is no guarantee this untried method will work at all, let alone as desired. I will get numbers but they may be no good.
The reason for the delay is it is hard stuff, and I have never tried these methods before. Also, I encounter unanticipated snags and have to find solutions. I had to make up some of it as I went along. I have very little time to bounce it off people. I have to make snap decisions and keep moving. Sometimes they are bad and I have to backtrack. But usually they are good. Others had accepted them, for the most part. Another source of delay was me being pulled away to do higher priority "production" work. I was the most qualified so I had to do it, even though I was busy. I agreed but they need to realize that I can only do one thing at a time!
My boss knows I am under pressure and has, since then, removed me from all other duties so I can focus on this research. He once asked me how I felt about all the pressure, and I gave him a grim face and said, "Well, it looks failure is not an option." Time to ante up and fight!
Part of me, though, would love to just resign and screw them all. Yet part of me feels responsible. In any event, I insist on doing things correctly and thoroughly which does not always mesh with timetables. People always want quick and simple methods, and I want optimal methods. It is so annoying at times, especially when the "client" just does not understand the details and the problems. They just want a statistic and leave it up to me and my fellow statisticians to come up with a method to calculate it. At least I am paid well. But managers are paid more just because they manage, not because they know more, necessarily. That annoys me, too. But I work in government and that is the way it is. They cannot pay more for talent, just pay for for length of service and management duties.
I am doing my best, and everybody thinks so. When this is all over, though, I think I might vent to management ask them in the future not to make promises before the methodology is vetted. At this point in my career I do not care about what they think about me or if they get upset. I know they need my talents more than I need theirs. So they would never fire me if I complained.
Or, maybe I will keep quiet and move onto the next thing.
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I am under stress at work, but not from asshole bosses, but from poor planning and a tight schedule. The organization made a promise to people (they even put it as a short term objective in their strategic plan!). So now we must deliver. Yet it was all theoretical. They made the promises before any research was done on the methods. I am doing most of the research. I think I will succeed in my research, but it probably will be delayed. And there is no guarantee this untried method will work at all, let alone as desired. I will get numbers but they may be no good.
The reason for the delay is it is hard stuff, and I have never tried these methods before. Also, I encounter unanticipated snags and have to find solutions. I had to make up some of it as I went along. I have very little time to bounce it off people. I have to make snap decisions and keep moving. Sometimes they are bad and I have to backtrack. But usually they are good. Others had accepted them, for the most part. Another source of delay was me being pulled away to do higher priority "production" work. I was the most qualified so I had to do it, even though I was busy. I agreed but they need to realize that I can only do one thing at a time!
My boss knows I am under pressure and has, since then, removed me from all other duties so I can focus on this research. He once asked me how I felt about all the pressure, and I gave him a grim face and said, "Well, it looks failure is not an option." Time to ante up and fight!
Part of me, though, would love to just resign and screw them all. Yet part of me feels responsible. In any event, I insist on doing things correctly and thoroughly which does not always mesh with timetables. People always want quick and simple methods, and I want optimal methods. It is so annoying at times, especially when the "client" just does not understand the details and the problems. They just want a statistic and leave it up to me and my fellow statisticians to come up with a method to calculate it. At least I am paid well. But managers are paid more just because they manage, not because they know more, necessarily. That annoys me, too. But I work in government and that is the way it is. They cannot pay more for talent, just pay for for length of service and management duties.
I am doing my best, and everybody thinks so. When this is all over, though, I think I might vent to management ask them in the future not to make promises before the methodology is vetted. At this point in my career I do not care about what they think about me or if they get upset. I know they need my talents more than I need theirs. So they would never fire me if I complained.
Or, maybe I will keep quiet and move onto the next thing.
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@JoyfulSilence Sounds very familiar! It's the lack of organization on my supervisor's part which has become detrimental to my clients and her staff. It's scary when an incompetent individual has power over the health and well being of disabled individuals. I should not care if she drops the ball, but, unfortunately I do because I care for my disabled clients very much. If I did not, I could never do this job. I certainly do not do it for the pittance they pay me.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Yes, sometimes when it comes to management, the left hand does not know what the right hand is doing. All I care about is the mathematics, and using proper methods.