If all 50 us states start arguing which one started the argument?

People in that day and age made fun of him because he had a high, squeaky voice. He was too "rustic" and backwoods for their choice to first serve as a lawyer and later as an Illinois representative and still later in government. When Lincoln made the White House, he had several known and unknown enemies. His wife was a shrew who suspected everyone in government.

He liked off-color jokes and didn't check the mood or gender of his audience before he repeated one. People thought he was rude and crude because he was a "Westerner" (born in Kentucky and living in Illinois) before campaigning for President.

That was the public view in those days. Anyone not from the Eastern Seaboard was unheard of campaigning for the highest office in the land. (Note: Andy Jackson was a notable exception). He didn't serve in the military nor have any sons (of age) to serve either. The Southerners hated him because the feared he was going to free the slaves (before he did) and disrupt their way of life; the Northerners were largely suspicious of him.

I don't disagree with that. Slavery was evil and wrong. But the Southerners who depended on young, strong bucks and wenches to help them pick tobacco and cotton and general crops had no one who would labor alongside themselves, even at a moderate wage, which they didn't have to offer them anyway. (The former slaves didn't want to work for anyone, even if promised wages. They were enjoying their freedom too much.) Lincoln didn't believe in slavery, either, which is why he did what he did.

Because he was not a smooth Virginian on the orders of George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, James Madison. He was from what people considered "Indian territory" out West. His wife, as I said, was a shrewish woman who gossiped about her betters and had nightmarish dreams about her husband being murdered. After Lincoln died, her oldest son had her locked up in a mental institution for several years because of the rumors (too many to list here) she spread about his death,manner of dying, and her dreams.

She was mentally incompetent - a polite way of saying she was mad. She was sure "his enemies" were out to get him.

I really don't know - maybe he thought that was the way she was, part of her personality, and it didn't bother him. It was brought out later by historians, that her sister and mother were the same way. But not quite so "hysterical" as she turned out to be.

Maybe she didn't show it until after she was married. Historians said she was really bad after her two younger sons died (one before Lincoln was elected to the White House, the other (youngest) when he was about 15.)

Some men don't notice during the courting. My younger brother was married twice. #1 chased him while she was still married. Then when she divorced him and married my brother, she kept stepping out on him and letting "boyfriends" stay with them, also going back to #1 on and off. #2 is the laziest creature on the face of the earth.

Not my brother. Because #1 flirted with him, he was sure it was "true love" and was convinced it was forever. Then #2 wanted him to divorce #1 and marry her, and he said he didn't have the money. She went to the bank, closed her account, and gave him the price to divorce her. He was convinced THIS one was it.

No.number #1 was three years older than me, making him 19. Current wife #2 is thirteen years my junior. She is 50 and he was 30. I had no use for her after I heard in a roundabout way she wondered what he looked like without clothes - the first time they met(!) And she was a friend of #1.