Have you ever dated a single parent?

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I don't know if I see a future. I just thought it was pretty casual. Exclusive, but casual. It's been probably 6ish months. We haven't even said the L word. I'm so confused... red flags everywhere!

@Sadie14: trust your instinct then hunny

In that case, I'd say don't help with the kids then. They're not your responsibility. In fact, if I were you, I'd limit my contact with them in general.

Then you have to tell him !!
Parenting doesn't come naturally to some folk. And if you are at the stage where you just aren't ready for all that, it's unfair of him to expect you to be.

I already did and I think he's mad at me. I haven't talked to him in person about it yet.

Well it seems a bit immature, to be mad at you !
You didn't ask to be involved in his family and he must have thought it might be a step too far too early.

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I'm sure you're right. I don't need this pressure. 😅

@Sadie14: I recommend following your instincts. You already see red flags. You already seem to know what you are capable of handling or not at this point in your life, putting you a step ahead of many people. Level with the guy about how you feel--he needs to know in case he is making assumptions about you that will prove invalid.

Right? Doesn't that seem weird? Do you ever even see yourself actually asking someone to help? Am I weird or is that strange?

@Sadie14: perhaps if I was serious enough that we lived together or I was remarried, I might ask for help with something her and there... after all it is a package deal when you marry someone with kids... but I would try to be considerate and not make that an every day occurrence. But 6 months in? Nope. They're my kids, I'll handle them.

That's what I initially thought. It's weird because he really is a good dad. I think he's just overwhelmed. Mom isn't really in the picture.

she's 14 now....so you can imagine the pure agony

Lol! I definitely can. You poor, poor soul... 😧

@JarJarBoom: I take it that the 14yo inspired the Boom in your username.

You're probably over thinking

Yeah... probably... 😅

@Sadie14: Overthinking is far better than underthinking in this type of situation. Just sayin'...

I realize that if the relationship were to progress I would need to be involved. But I don't feel like it's there yet. At all.

@Sadie14: well maybe its a good thing you got a taste of it now because if it got serious then there would be a lot more of that stuff. A persons kids will always come first.

That's a good point.

I can't swim 😱

But great advice!

It's sketchy. It's not even super serious yet. It makes me think he's just looking for a mother for them and that's it. And in that case... BYE.