How did/do YOU get over someone you still love?

I don't ever talk about him or this at all. But last night I talked about I here and I can't stop thinking about it.
I think I was in love with him. Like soul mate love. I didn't deal with it in a good way when things went downhill. I slit my wrists a lot and ate my feelings away. I cried myself countless nights to sleep. I'm not over him to this day, which would explain why I act like he never even existed in the first place.