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Echoing · 61-69, F
@Peppa nope, the oldest, I have a sister. I am not a fan of my mother's way or her thinking. She is … harmful for my own mental state. But... I will honor her in these trying days. I got too. And did, just this past few days.
I drove 1,000 miles round trip to aid my elderly mother since no one will.
That is how bad she is!
I drove 1,000 miles round trip to aid my elderly mother since no one will.
That is how bad she is!
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Echoing I tried to get rid of my narc mother but cutting off my family. if I'm honest they werent really all that helpful either, over the years they always wanted me to visit them but rarely came here to visit me. when i did theyd always go to my aunties and wed still have to chase behind them.
i realise now it was probaby because of my mother and fathers dirty lifestyle. too i love and fucked up to clean, work towards anything or clean what they had, the little tidying up that did go on to at least maintain surface level cleaning was being done by me. my parents were incredibly disrespectful, id clean and go to bed with the place tidy, only to wake up and find cigarette butts and nicotine scattered along the table, weed grinder and its remenants, sometimes 2/3 cups on the table, empty bottle of cola and wine on the floor, clothes and whatever else, newpaper, ash all over and always some new cigarette burn on the furniture.
they lived a trash life and i was their slave.
I hated my childhood, when i left i was happy for all of 5 mins, every purchase i made was a bad idea, nothing was up to her standard (my father and i stopped talking) anything i needed help with was a burden.
she moaned constantly... about helping me to paint and actually wanted me to take her cast offs and use my money to buy her new stuff!!!
Ive worked very hard to have all i do 9 years later.
My mother refuses to maintain her cupboards, i make her ask me for help, because she is way too used to waiting for me to offer whilst i have to beg her for the slightest of help.
anytime she suspects im dating someone she starts her ignoring and neglecting behaviour, creating distance, claiming she called or text me and just doesnt know why they didnt go through...
i realise now it was probaby because of my mother and fathers dirty lifestyle. too i love and fucked up to clean, work towards anything or clean what they had, the little tidying up that did go on to at least maintain surface level cleaning was being done by me. my parents were incredibly disrespectful, id clean and go to bed with the place tidy, only to wake up and find cigarette butts and nicotine scattered along the table, weed grinder and its remenants, sometimes 2/3 cups on the table, empty bottle of cola and wine on the floor, clothes and whatever else, newpaper, ash all over and always some new cigarette burn on the furniture.
they lived a trash life and i was their slave.
I hated my childhood, when i left i was happy for all of 5 mins, every purchase i made was a bad idea, nothing was up to her standard (my father and i stopped talking) anything i needed help with was a burden.
she moaned constantly... about helping me to paint and actually wanted me to take her cast offs and use my money to buy her new stuff!!!
Ive worked very hard to have all i do 9 years later.
My mother refuses to maintain her cupboards, i make her ask me for help, because she is way too used to waiting for me to offer whilst i have to beg her for the slightest of help.
anytime she suspects im dating someone she starts her ignoring and neglecting behaviour, creating distance, claiming she called or text me and just doesnt know why they didnt go through...
Echoing · 61-69, F
@Peppa (HUG) I see your heart, it is a good one! My family are ..clean snobs, self-righteous people...lol.. they think!
IF it is too much for you, too toxic.. you are best to NOT allow yourself to be around them.
Totally different situations hon!
Take care of yourself. Be safe and well! Blessings to you!❤️
IF it is too much for you, too toxic.. you are best to NOT allow yourself to be around them.
Totally different situations hon!
Take care of yourself. Be safe and well! Blessings to you!❤️
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Echoing Im sorry it was a long response, but i always feel that until i fully explain people always think im an ungrateful child. I was and have always been grateful i realise accepting the bare minimum. after years of making a christmas list only to be told it was impractical or too childish. even when i got birthday or xmas money i had to save it or put it towards something sensible, that was if my mum hadnt stolen it from my piggy bank before i spent it. i often find myself posing this question to others, did i ask to be born??? everything was a burden to them with me and being an only child i only learned to dislike myself because i didnt understanf how two pwople could dislike me so much. the best times where at events they were the most loving parents ever talking so well of me well thats if they werent preoccupied with fighting or shagging!!
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Carazaa my father is already in a home and i told my mum she needs to start making provisions for herself because if my plan goes ahead i will be leaving the uk, and no sickness will make me return. only to bin or sell whatever junk shes hoarded, yes shes a hoarder. to fund her funeral!
you Carazaa have only read a snippet of what shes done to me, and its a daily occurance, even down to hanging up the phone she has to be the one incharge of when i come off the phone. there is something wrong with her!
you Carazaa have only read a snippet of what shes done to me, and its a daily occurance, even down to hanging up the phone she has to be the one incharge of when i come off the phone. there is something wrong with her!
Carazaa · F
@Peppa
Yes there is something wrong with her! My mom hung up on me too just for saying “ it hurts my feelings when you compare me to my sister” so after that I just stopped sharing anything negative. If you do everything their way, they are Happy! I was able to do that after that and then we got along fine! But we didn’t visit often!
Yes there is something wrong with her! My mom hung up on me too just for saying “ it hurts my feelings when you compare me to my sister” so after that I just stopped sharing anything negative. If you do everything their way, they are Happy! I was able to do that after that and then we got along fine! But we didn’t visit often!