My mind is full of lustful thoughts and i think the devil is trying to put me into a dark place . Im not a bad or sick person but my mind is overwhelm [Spirituality & Religion]

I'm thinking I'm leaving God down over my troubled mind at the moment . It's not gone bad as to hurt someone or take advantage of someone cause I'm not that type of person to do that .
But I must say my mind is overwhelmed with lustful thoughts and I'm thinking it's the Devil down stairs trying to put me into a dark place .
I feel good most of the time during the day but at some stage in the day a lustful thought comes into my mind and has me grabbed
I'm 38 I'm single , I went through hardships with ex , a very painful experience . It ended up sour at the end , very toxic and I'm just wondering is there a connection between the 2 . The lustful thoughts and the bad break up . It's a long time since I broke up but I never got over it properly. I find and not being biased to woman I found she was very cold person and only noticed it when I broke up with her . I did like also but at the end it was uncalled for .
There was one woman who had great interest in me and I pulled myself out cause I've had a fear that it would turn out like that.
So I stayed away from the woman and my mind got very lustful when being on my own. I'm not saying all woman are like that but I met some bad apple ones (full of mind games) it's there insecurities.

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LadyGrace

That is the problem. You did [u]not[/u] let her go three years ago, if you are still fighting this battle. This will take a conscious effort on your part and the answer is to pray. Stay in prayer and talk to God about it and ask him to help you move forward and not stay stuck in the past. There's nothing you can do about that and so you must train up your mind to think on other things, positive things. It takes training and all you have to do is practice doing that. When these things come to your mind, get busy, do something else, and pray and God will give you the strength, but you have to make that choice. This happened to me one time and I know how miserable it is. But you can do this. Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us. Sometimes, as I found out, it's not the person that we are grieving over, but what [u]might[/u] have been! We grieve that we lost something we only [u]thought[/u] we had and that can really cause stress. God wants you to have so much better. That old saying is true. Change your mind, and you will change your life. There's no need to stay stuck when you can be active in your own healing. God will help you but you have to do your part as well. You must resist the temptation to think about her at every hand. Staying stuck in the past is not going to help you heal and you must move on because there is someone out there perhaps feeling the same way you are, that needs you and is waiting for you. Concentrate on that and how wonderful that new relationship, that is healthy, will feel. Get excited about that and think of what she looks like and how wonderful and beautiful your relationship is going to be. Because she will treat you like you deserve to be treated. Think on that. Get excited about finding her and when you do, all this other old stuff will not even bother you I guarantee.