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Can my parents force me to go to church? [Spirituality & Religion]

NOTE: Sorry, this is going to be long, but I feel that some background is needed for this question.

So, I am 19, and I still live under my parent's roof. I don't have too much money in savings, but I work around 15-20 hours a week along with being a full time student, so I'm saving up as much as I can to move out within the next couple of years or so. (With a roomate or two, because let's face it, minimum wage could never cover rent AND utilities anywhere.)
Anyways, my parents (most specifically my father) have the mentality that "I live under their roof, therefore I live by their rules." My dad even takes it so far as to that if I want to move out, he feels that he has to give me permission to do so, and that if I take my car somewhere that they do not approve of, I KNOW he would not hesitate to call the police and say that I stole it. Also,both of my parents have an app that tracks my location on both my phone and my brother's, AND MY BROTHER IS 21. (Yes, he still lives at home.)
So, with all of this information, my dad still is VERY big on church and sees any time that I am sick or am helping volunteer in the church with the nursery as an excuse to miss the service. It's not that I don't believe in God or anything anymore, but I'd rather discover things on my own and make sure I know why I believe what I believe by exploring things by myself and not just because it's what I grew up in. So, in my opinion I don't think church should be forced upon me, because honestly, every time I'm forced to go, it makes me think that people at church are narrow-minded and only care about people believing what THEY want. And, as I said, it's not that I don't believe in it, but I want to discover on my own WHY I believe it. So, everytime I am not in the mood for church, my dad has a hissy fit. He tells me "how God should be first in my life, and church is the most important thing.. blah, blah, blah." And it's not that I don't agree, but sometimes, especially with school and work, I need a day to sleep in, or I don't feel like being pressured to believe in something that I want to discover the truth about on my own.
So, sorry this was long, but I really hope someone can give me some clarity as to why my parents are so overprotective and what I can do to get them to ease up a bit.
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IchBin2 · 22-25, M
If you don't like it, move out.
@IchBin2 I don't have the money to afford a place to live, and my car was paid for by my parents. If I left, I have no doubt they'd report it as stolen.
IchBin2 · 22-25, M
@marilynmichelle You're an adult. You should get your finances in order and have a discussion with them about getting your own place to live if you aren't satisfied with your current living arrangement.
With what money? I am a full time student and get paid minimum wage. 😂
IchBin2 · 22-25, M
@marilynmichelle If you're a full time student, how are you making minimum wage?

@IchBin2 Because I still work 15-20 hours a week, I'm a freshman in college.
IchBin2 · 22-25, M
@marilynmichelle So save your money. Make a list of needs and wants, and then spend accordingly.
@IchBin2 That's what I'm trying to do...But it's hard to afford an apartment by yourself when you only make minimum wage and can't afford anything after saving up for over a year.
IchBin2 · 22-25, M
@marilynmichelle Look for other jobs, or just finish schooling and then move out.
@IchBin2 This is my first job, though. It's going to be pretty hard to find something that will pay me better with little to no work experience.
IchBin2 · 22-25, M
@marilynmichelle Eh, it depends. Some places around here like McDonalds offer one euro above minimum wage. It was like that in the US too when I lived there.
I mean, I do make above minimum wage, but cost of living and utilities here can be pretty pricey for one person.
IchBin2 · 22-25, M
@marilynmichelle Maybe get a room mate?
@IchBin2 I just don't know anyone to room with...