I was 44, split with my eofe and my dad pulled the "we don't have to let you live here" stuff.

You don't have to agree to it. Try a different church. Read up on what you think you believe. That's the beauty of what God has done for us. Free will. Explain to him that your faith is still intact, you feel the need to grow and see what you can do for "another" church.

It's weird with churches (particularly in the south), they feel like it's a personal insult for you to check things out.

The Bible never says to NOT question, but to keep your faith about you. Hell, Gideon did it. The apostles did it AFTER the 5000 we're fed.

I question things all the time, but I still believe that Jesus died for my sons and that no "works" will get me where I want to be.

You're not wrong for wanting to leave the nest, but maybe get your plan prepared.

So to be clear your parents are inanely over-controlling to the point I'd consider it borderline abusive. You're an adult. Your parents cannot force you to do anything. The tracking stuff in particular is egregious.

Your options are to tough it out, to break some rules, or to break all the rules and see how far they go. For example, take your car somewhere and let them call the police. The police don't take kindly to someone wasting their time with frivolous calls. They'll get in trouble, not you. Just make sure you have your documentation.

It may be worth it to take a gap year and work two jobs just to save up enough to get your own place to go back to school in just to get out. You need to remove their financial control over you.

As for church... honestly, that's the hardest one. If your dad genuinely believes you will suffer for eternity if you skip a few Sundays it's basically a battle of wills. However, he cannot legally force you.

Your parents are acting in a way that they feel is appropriate because they LOVE YOU!! Your father is just trying to be the best he can according to his beliefs. Until you get married, you are HIS daughter. This is not an optional viewpoint in his mind, and this is just as it should be.
It's easy for me, as a Father, to see his viewpoint. Put your car in your name, and cover your own insurance. Get your own phone. Be as open as you can without being confrontational. There may not be any way to make your father be less than he feels that he should.
As for renting, save your money and put some of your spare time into figuring out how to BUY a place. Rent is an enormous waste of money!!

Yes they can force you

They can force you to eat sweet peas too

Church is not the relevant topic here

Nor is force

Family cooperation is the issue

If you want the aspects of family ... and church and sweet peas are part of the family ... then it is simple ... cooperate

Within just a few years you will wish you had one more hour doing family activities.

I rarely meet someone who does not admit it.

They aren't going to change. I feel bad for you, but that appears to be the way things have been and will continue.
Why aren't you in college? This would be an excellent time to move out and become more educated and independent at the same time.

Focus on the Lord. Pray for wisdom.
Go to church to worship. Your parents love you. It is hard for them see you growing up. The day will come when you will be gone and perhaps have a family of your own. It is hard to see everything now, but you will understand better.

Here is a link about church that might encourage you:

https://www.ibelieve.com/slideshows/10-reasons-you-should-go-to-church-every-week.html

Rule number one: go to church. It’s not going to do you any good if you don’t want to go. But you do kinda owe it to your dad who just wants the best for you. Remember he loves you very much. Maybe you could go and enjoy it. It’s really not that much or that hard to do. Your dad will appreciate it. Come home take a nap.plenty of time to rest. It might really do you some good.

Good lord, how oppressive.

I grew up with a very protective mom. Unfortunately, I'm going to have to say no, there's nothing you can do. However, you can suggest that you would like to explore the ministry in other ways so serving in other capacities makes you feel closer to God. You said you do the nursery at the church. I don't know. I figured out how to get some religious freedom by using that very language to convince my mom of what I wanted. I waited until I moved out to tell her I wasn't Christian tho. I'm sorry to say but manipulation is part of the game if you want any autonomy.

Yes if you live under their roof. My father had rules for me

If you don't like it, move out.

Sounds like wonderful motivation to save money and lots of it so you can move out of there and pay for things yourself. Not much else to do besides just deal with it or leave. Sorry they feel they need such control. You won’t be under it forever.

yr 19?

leave.

Do what your heart says but do hear ur parents please

And just cuz they can tell you to go to church doesn’t mean you have to listen!

While living at home just respect your parents wishes, when you can afford to leave home than you have the choice not to attend church

Of course he cant legally but if he dont want to listen to you, you wont live in peace there.

Your parents are very strict.I would try reasoning with them.Let them know you are feeling pushed.Say you are no longer a child and that they raised you well but you have a mind of your own now

No, you are an adult and old enough to make your own decisions.

Realistically? No. Even if you live in their house.

my mother was a strict religious woman and we was forced to go to church and our lives was based on the bible

Just tell them you don’t wanna go.

Time to move out.

Yes

Hey mods!

Tl:Dr you're 19. It's their house, their rules. Move out and don't to to church.

No

Yes or you will be sent to a cult to serve god, to marry the leader and pop out 7 babies

He cantforce you to go but if you don’t it may make your home life miserable or he may kick you out.

Well, he has the hammer with which to beat you doesn't he? He demands you do what he wants you to or you have to move out and probably, from what it soinds like, get disowned in the bargain. Sorry but your dad is the sort of adult I really dislike. Abusive use of power. Yuck. I hope you figure something better out soon. Living there sounds toxic.

It’s very unfair, and ironically like something one would hear about in a Middle Eastern country. If you live in the U.S. you have more options—for example you certainly don’t have to get permission to move out. However, that may be what you have to do to gain any type of personal freedom, even if it’s only renting a room in someone else’s home. As long as you live with your parents they can make church a requirement because they don’t legally have to provide you housing.

Your father is an abuser and no Christian but/and you're in a vulnerable position

Your Dad is a control freak... sorry..
As regards religion, there is a professor of bible studies from the university of NC that has written a number of books about the accuracy of the bible, Bart Ehrman. They are very interesting, but don't let your dad catch you reading them... :/