poisonflowers · 31-35, F
@poisonflowers Yes, the effort is so worth it. It can be done. We cannot change each other, nor should we try to, but what we can do is change the way we think and feel about the other person, and try to be a better, more loving person. What you give, comes back, if persistent, but we can't just try something 5 or 6 or even 15 times, and then conclude that it doesn't work. Sometimes the relationship was broken quite sometime ago, therefore it will not heal overnight. It takes perseverance, work, but most of all, love. We don't have to beat ourselves up for mistakes. When you know better, you just do better. I commend you for the realization of how to make things work much better. Your efforts shall be rewarded. Talk is nothing without action. I'm proud of you for trying. Way to go! 👍👏🤗
Serenitree · F
The two best marriages I have seen in recent times were people who always remembered the please and thank you. They always sounded happy to hear their partner's voice when they called. Always, before anything else, when they got home, there were hugs, and "How was your day?" Not just to hear "Good, how was yours" but they actually talked about the day and listened to each other. Respect was paramount in their homes. They gave it willingly to each other and to their children. They shared all chores, because they both worked full time, outside the home. Shared the raising of the children. And as far as I know, never argued in front of the kids. Or the help. I was their cleaning lady. 18 years with one family and 17 years with the other.
