✨ Reminders ✨………………
Don’t feel in the gaps in someone’s character just because you want to trust them.
It’s not uncommon when we really care about somebody that we’ll rise to defend them when they let us down.
We’ll make excuses for them, rationalize, or blame ourselves.
“My expectations were probably too high”
“They probably didn’t mean for it to come off that way”
“They probably didn’t mean to let me down, burden me or to hurt me this way”
We’re giving the benefit of the doubt, being kind, compassionate when really we’re just avoiding conflict. We just don’t want to confront them because if we confront them we accept the reality, that maybe they’ve been undependable for a while now. Which makes everything far more complicated.
We’re not responsible for the actions of others or for the choices they make. We are responsible for what we entrust to people that we know are not trustworthy.
It’s not uncommon when we really care about somebody that we’ll rise to defend them when they let us down.
We’ll make excuses for them, rationalize, or blame ourselves.
“My expectations were probably too high”
“They probably didn’t mean for it to come off that way”
“They probably didn’t mean to let me down, burden me or to hurt me this way”
We’re giving the benefit of the doubt, being kind, compassionate when really we’re just avoiding conflict. We just don’t want to confront them because if we confront them we accept the reality, that maybe they’ve been undependable for a while now. Which makes everything far more complicated.
We’re not responsible for the actions of others or for the choices they make. We are responsible for what we entrust to people that we know are not trustworthy.
