It's time to clear out the bullies/trolls.
We've had a lot going on at this site, with trolls and what have you. We have seen the damage these bullies do to this site. And thanks to Administration placing a post here, we can see why we all need to pull together, and consider how we will together, weed them out.
No, it doesn't mean we will get rid of them. That's not the and that's not realistic. There will always be those coming here, with the agenda to do nothing but troll and bully. They pollute our site with their nonsense. But that's because we allow it. Why do we do that? I think that's something, all of us should contemplate. They should not be allowed to disrupt this site. I say we put a stop to these ignorant trolls and bullies, as we obviously know their agenda. I don't believe we can just throw up our hands and say, "Well that's just the way it is here and that's the way it's going to be." That's not how it HAS to be. This is not acceptable behavior.
I could not be happier now with this site, now that I have personally weeded out these immature jerks. And I tell you what.... the people who built this site and work here, have worked extremely hard to please us and make this site everything we want it to be, and they do not deserve to have it ruined by bullies and trolls. They have done a magnificent job in doing so, and we can show our appreciation to them, by joining together to stamp out bullies and trolls. It can be done, because I humbly say, that I have found a system that works for me and I'm sure it would work for you, if we would just all join together in an effort to reclaim our favorite site! This site could be the top social site on the web, if we pull together. Then everyone would want to come. Trolls and Bullies are not welcome here and they don't belong here, disrupting this wonderful site that Andrew and Nuno have worked so hard, to make it the best for us. Let's give them a helping hand, shall we? We don't need this type disturbance on our site. I believe it's obvious that we need new rules amongst ourselves, to compliment the rules, Administration already has in place.
I'd like to share with you the rules I have set for myself regarding this matter, since I deal with that bunch everyday....that is, until I took a stand. IF you decide to join with me, they will not work unless you decide to strictly enforce these rules at all times AND be consistent. Obviously, I'm not referring to simple suspicions. You know full well, when someone is trolling/bullying you. You know the signs, and then you can make personal decisions on how you want to handle it. I even gave this idea, my own name: PROJECT TROLL PATROL - The name may sound funny, but the the project is for a serious cause. The suffering and damage these trolls/bullies love to dish out, is not funny at all. Especially, when it's you or someone you love, they are badgering.
Here are my rules and they work. I just wish we would all work together and take a stand on this. Not because I made them. I made these for myself, but I humbly say, I feel certain they would work for you, as well, and that's why I'm sharing these. This is OUR website, and we need to reclaim it! We need to protect ourselves and each other. We can make this site beautiful and wonderful again. Who knows. I could see it become the most popular social website on the Web, if we'll but pull together. I'm hoping we can do what other sites have not been able to accomplish, and that is, stamp out bullies and trolls to the best of our ability. The following works for me:
1. Never answer bullies/trolls.
2. No response-----PERIOD!!! NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY. For example, if someone comes on your post making snide remarks and doing nothing but trying to bully you, etc., the second you answer them, you must realize you don't phase them a bit because they get a kick out of keeping you engaged and laughing at your replies, okay? You need to understand that. I think bullies and trolls have narcissistic tendencies, if not full blown. When you don't give them feedback, they have nothing to go on. There's nothing they can reply and feed off from you, and so that's the end of it. And if they come back again, do not hesitate to hit the block button. Just because they don't come back now, doesn't mean they won't come back around to try again. They are childish idiots, with nothing more than an agenda to keep disruption going. That's why you must BLOCK them from trying again.
3. NO CONTACT!!!, NOT IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM!
4. DELETE THEIR FIRST ATTACK TO YOUR POST, THEN BLOCK THEM. WHY - This rule is especially important. Stop the bull before it starts. Then you must block them, because if you don't, what you will end up with is them coming back with a sob story asking you why you block them but this is only to get you engaged in argument and disruption of your post again. You must realize that! That's what narcissists do. You aren't hurting them in the least by deleting their remark. They just want you to think so, because these people have no conscience or feelings for you at all. Never make the mistake of thinking they do. Their agenda is only to engage you, and keep you engaged. If they can't get YOU to engage, they'll circle the tank, until they find another victim, because they need us, to feed their egos.
These are people whose alter egos have taken them over and they live through other people. They don't even know who they are. They have lost themselves to this alter ego who has completely taken them over. These are people who don't even know what love is. Their definition of Love, is control. That's all it is. The sooner you learn that and realize it, the better your life will be.
This has given me a delightful, happy experience, here now. We do not have to put up with this type behavior. These type have nothing better to do with their time, than to bully people. This is a serious offense! This is not a game. We have witnessed people get hurt, people leave, and people who get bullied so much, they develop PTSD or become suicidal...some, following through. I have seen this and I have seen the most beautiful people, leave here, because of these insecure trolls. One was a friend of mine that just was badgered to death and so she left and boy was she an asset to this site. She was the sweetest person, yet they just wouldn't stop badgering her and she would always answer nicely of course, but she made the huge mistake of entertaining these fools, and then she left, and I miss her dearly. In fact I have lost quite a few friends here, and I don't stand for it anymore, and I hope you won't either.
Again...What if this was your daughter or son or sister or mother or brother, that was being bullied by these trolls? Think about that. And how many have actually killed themselves because of these trolls?
It's time we take a stand! We can all pitch in together, and clean up this site. I know we can do it. Then everyone would want to join this site and it would be a place where you could come to relax, laugh, share, find comfort, find a friend that could help you and keep you company when you're lonely or whatever, and people could once again enjoy their experience here, as we all deserve. Let's give them a big dose of their own medicine, what do you say? Are you with me?
No, it doesn't mean we will get rid of them. That's not the and that's not realistic. There will always be those coming here, with the agenda to do nothing but troll and bully. They pollute our site with their nonsense. But that's because we allow it. Why do we do that? I think that's something, all of us should contemplate. They should not be allowed to disrupt this site. I say we put a stop to these ignorant trolls and bullies, as we obviously know their agenda. I don't believe we can just throw up our hands and say, "Well that's just the way it is here and that's the way it's going to be." That's not how it HAS to be. This is not acceptable behavior.
I could not be happier now with this site, now that I have personally weeded out these immature jerks. And I tell you what.... the people who built this site and work here, have worked extremely hard to please us and make this site everything we want it to be, and they do not deserve to have it ruined by bullies and trolls. They have done a magnificent job in doing so, and we can show our appreciation to them, by joining together to stamp out bullies and trolls. It can be done, because I humbly say, that I have found a system that works for me and I'm sure it would work for you, if we would just all join together in an effort to reclaim our favorite site! This site could be the top social site on the web, if we pull together. Then everyone would want to come. Trolls and Bullies are not welcome here and they don't belong here, disrupting this wonderful site that Andrew and Nuno have worked so hard, to make it the best for us. Let's give them a helping hand, shall we? We don't need this type disturbance on our site. I believe it's obvious that we need new rules amongst ourselves, to compliment the rules, Administration already has in place.
I'd like to share with you the rules I have set for myself regarding this matter, since I deal with that bunch everyday....that is, until I took a stand. IF you decide to join with me, they will not work unless you decide to strictly enforce these rules at all times AND be consistent. Obviously, I'm not referring to simple suspicions. You know full well, when someone is trolling/bullying you. You know the signs, and then you can make personal decisions on how you want to handle it. I even gave this idea, my own name: PROJECT TROLL PATROL - The name may sound funny, but the the project is for a serious cause. The suffering and damage these trolls/bullies love to dish out, is not funny at all. Especially, when it's you or someone you love, they are badgering.
Here are my rules and they work. I just wish we would all work together and take a stand on this. Not because I made them. I made these for myself, but I humbly say, I feel certain they would work for you, as well, and that's why I'm sharing these. This is OUR website, and we need to reclaim it! We need to protect ourselves and each other. We can make this site beautiful and wonderful again. Who knows. I could see it become the most popular social website on the Web, if we'll but pull together. I'm hoping we can do what other sites have not been able to accomplish, and that is, stamp out bullies and trolls to the best of our ability. The following works for me:
1. Never answer bullies/trolls.
2. No response-----PERIOD!!! NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY. For example, if someone comes on your post making snide remarks and doing nothing but trying to bully you, etc., the second you answer them, you must realize you don't phase them a bit because they get a kick out of keeping you engaged and laughing at your replies, okay? You need to understand that. I think bullies and trolls have narcissistic tendencies, if not full blown. When you don't give them feedback, they have nothing to go on. There's nothing they can reply and feed off from you, and so that's the end of it. And if they come back again, do not hesitate to hit the block button. Just because they don't come back now, doesn't mean they won't come back around to try again. They are childish idiots, with nothing more than an agenda to keep disruption going. That's why you must BLOCK them from trying again.
3. NO CONTACT!!!, NOT IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM!
4. DELETE THEIR FIRST ATTACK TO YOUR POST, THEN BLOCK THEM. WHY - This rule is especially important. Stop the bull before it starts. Then you must block them, because if you don't, what you will end up with is them coming back with a sob story asking you why you block them but this is only to get you engaged in argument and disruption of your post again. You must realize that! That's what narcissists do. You aren't hurting them in the least by deleting their remark. They just want you to think so, because these people have no conscience or feelings for you at all. Never make the mistake of thinking they do. Their agenda is only to engage you, and keep you engaged. If they can't get YOU to engage, they'll circle the tank, until they find another victim, because they need us, to feed their egos.
TROLLS/BULLIES CAN'T STAND IT, WHEN YOU IGNORE THEM
These are people whose alter egos have taken them over and they live through other people. They don't even know who they are. They have lost themselves to this alter ego who has completely taken them over. These are people who don't even know what love is. Their definition of Love, is control. That's all it is. The sooner you learn that and realize it, the better your life will be.
This has given me a delightful, happy experience, here now. We do not have to put up with this type behavior. These type have nothing better to do with their time, than to bully people. This is a serious offense! This is not a game. We have witnessed people get hurt, people leave, and people who get bullied so much, they develop PTSD or become suicidal...some, following through. I have seen this and I have seen the most beautiful people, leave here, because of these insecure trolls. One was a friend of mine that just was badgered to death and so she left and boy was she an asset to this site. She was the sweetest person, yet they just wouldn't stop badgering her and she would always answer nicely of course, but she made the huge mistake of entertaining these fools, and then she left, and I miss her dearly. In fact I have lost quite a few friends here, and I don't stand for it anymore, and I hope you won't either.
Again...What if this was your daughter or son or sister or mother or brother, that was being bullied by these trolls? Think about that. And how many have actually killed themselves because of these trolls?
It's time we take a stand! We can all pitch in together, and clean up this site. I know we can do it. Then everyone would want to join this site and it would be a place where you could come to relax, laugh, share, find comfort, find a friend that could help you and keep you company when you're lonely or whatever, and people could once again enjoy their experience here, as we all deserve. Let's give them a big dose of their own medicine, what do you say? Are you with me?
