What are some things you would call "red flags" in a potential partner?

"Red flags" in a potential partner can vary depending on individual preferences and values, but some common ones to watch out for include:

Lack of communication or poor communication skills: Difficulty expressing feelings, avoiding important conversations, or frequent misunderstandings can indicate potential issues in the relationship.

Dishonesty or inconsistency: If your partner frequently lies or their actions don't match their words, it can erode trust and lead to larger problems down the line.

Controlling behavior: Attempts to dictate your actions, isolate you from friends and family, or exert undue influence over your decisions can be signs of an unhealthy dynamic.

Lack of respect: Disregarding your boundaries, belittling your opinions or accomplishments, or showing disrespect towards you or others may indicate a lack of respect in the relationship.

Unwillingness to take responsibility: Constantly blaming others, making excuses, or refusing to acknowledge their role in conflicts can signal a lack of accountability and maturity.

Patterns of instability or volatility: Frequent mood swings, extreme reactions to minor issues, or unpredictable behavior may indicate underlying emotional or mental health issues that need to be addressed.

Financial irresponsibility: If your partner consistently struggles with managing finances, accruing debt, or prioritizing short-term desires over long-term goals, it can create stress and strain on the relationship.

Lack of empathy or compassion: Inability or unwillingness to empathize with your feelings, needs, or struggles can make it difficult to build a healthy, supportive partnership.

It's important to remember that everyone has flaws and imperfections, but consistently encountering these red flags may suggest that the relationship could be unhealthy or unsustainable. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being when evaluating potential partners.

What Frog replied with...i just wish i hadn't been so blind to see it

Lack of respect, lying for no reason and no communication.

Does not take sexual rejection well
Makes little to no attempt to solve disputes in good faith

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a wedding ring and and ankle monitor

Patronizing behaviour

A habit of passionately opposing and contradicting me about every little thing I say

Disrespecting my boundaries

A lack of communication

Sexual dominance

Mentality indicating he might sacrifice his own individuality and freedoms for a community that has characteristics of a religious cult.

That ankle monitor

One who doesn’t ask you about yourself or your life and the conversation always revolved around or reverts back to being about him

Drug use
Cellphone use
Talks to other humans
Goes grocery shopping
Voted for Richard Nixon

A very large obvious canker sore in her genital area.

They were those spandex outfits and a helmet while bicycling

Hmm I'm kind of sick of these terms being used. So I'll simplify it.

The things I don't like in a partner

Not listening and respecting my boundaries.

If ever that happens I will address it immediately but I'll be dammed if I become a parrot...

Lots of micro-arguments like "I really thought you said [blah blah blah]", and no matter how many times you say otherwise, they won't listen. It can be over something as simple as your favorite color, movie, meal, etc. This is an early warning sign of a narcissist.

Many. But just to name a few :

Having had several girlfriends/partners before
Having kids with different baby mamas
Likes to go party a lot being over 30 years old
Says that they don’t like to wear condoms

LGBTQ flag.

Always on the phone, jealousy (personal experience), a lot of partners in the past are some for me

Telling me he loves me within a few weeks.

Deeply entrenched in right/left dogma.

Her husband shows up.

If when I ask them out they say yes

Love bombing is a really big red flag for me