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Priorities vs SW

People have lives outside of here and they are not always trying to ignore people.

If it comes between my family and here always choosing family.

I use to be closer to people when on EP, that's slipped here, I admit it.

When my mom died and I went through a year of hell back in 2018 it changed me and taught me to grasp at what is really important in life and though I like and respect many of you,it's not this place.
The people ,perhaps, but not this place.

The old friendships I forged in EP seem more accepting that we all have lives outside this place so, if I talk to them once a year(in Pirvate messages) we are still good with no assuming otherwise.
And those who demanded full attention all the time disappeared when they didn't get it. No real loss.

People have ignored me,my post,messages, possibly for pressing reasons, how would I know? or perhaps they didn't see it?
When I see these same people complaining about not getting an answer on thier posts or getting reply to messages right away it honestly make me wonder if they need coddling as much in real life as they do here?

My better side says we are all needy, in some ways, and to ignore the complaints and my gut says stick with those who have shown themselves to be okay with unexplained absences from time to time.

I do miss the closeness I felt with some on EP, but come to accept that was a different time in my life when I was exceptionally lonely.

Perhaps ,that's why some left for good they are no longer so lonely,hope so,always hope the reasons are happy ones.
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SW-User
I get it completely.
It changes for me when people exchange email addresses. lol
If you don't want to become actual friends off this site, then don't bother with email addresses.
Once we are real friends off the site, I'd like to think we keep in touch at least on a monthly basis. If you don't have the time or care, then why bother at all? lol Real friends are important too.

Still, if just on this site, it's not like anyone is putting extra effort into a friendship anyway.
Family comes first, but I have room for a friend or two too. :)
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@SW-User I've given people my email before they never bother to write back... I think one person did.
I suppose Just like in real life it is easier for some people to make friends than others.
SW-User
@Justmeraeagain I have some who have my email and never use it. It's okay.
I just know that some become friends through emails and we share sad, happy and all kinds of daily life things. :)
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@SW-User Happy for you didn't work out that way for me.
SW-User
@Justmeraeagain I had to learn that not everyone cares to be friends off internet sites. lol That was a hard one for me to accept. 🤣
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@SW-User I guess, I have easy friendships we can talk once in awhile and still be friends ...I don't need it every single day.
SW-User
@Justmeraeagain I agree... I'm not so needy to expect every day interaction, but if someone has no time for me for six months... I wonder how much of a friendship there really is. Kind of makes me think it's more of a passing acquaintance type thing.