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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
Yet everyone wants to avoid any human emotion that isn't happy and positive. It's truly sad. I learned years ago that no matter how valid my feelings, it didn't matter, nobody wants to be around someone who isn't making them happy. Thus I have become an isolated antisocial wanderer who thinks for herself, which makes me even more unlikable. I just don't care anymore. I tried for a very long time. I tried on my worst days. I understand now, it's not about community, it's about people's ability to be selfish. I won't be a part of that society.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@ScreamingFox It's funny, over the years, I have really stopped worrying about what people think of me. Either they are going to like me, or they aren't and honestly, that's fine. I am not Rose Nyland. I'm not going to be everyone's friend.
I also have to thank Lexapro for allowing me to live my authentic self. (I know this isn't an option for you. I'm sure your situation is frustrating 😪) I don't feel lonely. I don't feel the need to change to be liked and I don't feel like my life is devoid of friends. I created a social group irl that had given me so much joy and I am considering creating another for another thing I enjoy.
I think once you stop worrying about other people, it becomes easier to become empathetic and compassionate. I'm no longer competing with them because I have my own life to manage and I have spare time and energy to be there for those who want me around.
Selfish people are gonna selfish. That's what my boundaries are for. I'm not required to like or be friends with everyone either and I do cultivate who I have in my circles. It allows me to feel secure that I have things in place to avoid those things that I don't like and to keep people from imposing on me.
I also have to thank Lexapro for allowing me to live my authentic self. (I know this isn't an option for you. I'm sure your situation is frustrating 😪) I don't feel lonely. I don't feel the need to change to be liked and I don't feel like my life is devoid of friends. I created a social group irl that had given me so much joy and I am considering creating another for another thing I enjoy.
I think once you stop worrying about other people, it becomes easier to become empathetic and compassionate. I'm no longer competing with them because I have my own life to manage and I have spare time and energy to be there for those who want me around.
Selfish people are gonna selfish. That's what my boundaries are for. I'm not required to like or be friends with everyone either and I do cultivate who I have in my circles. It allows me to feel secure that I have things in place to avoid those things that I don't like and to keep people from imposing on me.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@FoxyQueen I truly understand and I'm with you. I still worry for the children and the future of the planet though. I can't shut down the selfless part of me that cares what happens when I'm no longer around. I've experienced too much loss and betrayal to only worry about myself and my circle.
More than anything I care about the earth and the innocent creatures. I accept it is naive.
More than anything I care about the earth and the innocent creatures. I accept it is naive.
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