I Enjoy Meaningful Conversations

Don't you hate it when someone asks a question, just to answer it theirself?
Or when it's a big question with a big answer, and they give like a 4 word response?
That's when you know they were't actually interested, and their motives weren't actually because they cared, or even because they wanted to talk about it and follow up with a reply.
I see through that shit every time. It gets old, ya know? I'm sure a lot of you have also experienced this?

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Morrgin

Usually for me it matters what words I choose, tone, pace, location, time allowed...etc. for the other person to feel comfortable enough to start talking in much detail. Others it takes barely any prompting. What I hate is when one or two people I'm around are talking about something I know quite a bit about but one of them won't let me finish a sentence or doesn't say anything for a moment like they never heard what I said.

ReasonablyInsane · 26-30, M

Definitely. I want to hear people open up about their opinions, and I really try to show a nonjudgmental, accepting tone, but I often never even get to hear about ideas, and my own input is even less often encouraged.
Sounds like you've been frustrated by this too. You ever say something, nobody acknowledges it, and then somebody else says almost the exact same thing and everyone's all like "oh yea, so true!" haha, I hate that

Morrgin

I wonder why it happens like that sometimes?

ReasonablyInsane · 26-30, M

Maybe I don't speak up enough? I don't know, I think for the most part people trust their own opinions and aren't open to considering new ideas. What do you think? Maybe we don't like sharing and discussing because we're afraid it'll turn into an argument?

Morrgin

The times I had problems with this is when I was around a head strong bossy know it all. They have this act like they are so smart to impress other people. When someone else comes along that does actually know what they are talking about they feel threatened. They don't want to lose face. You don't want them to either you just want a good conversation. So they treat you like what you have to say is dumb and not worth listening to so they can continue to put themselves above others with their false above average intelligence.

ReasonablyInsane · 26-30, M

I know what you mean, I've seen that played out quite a bit, it's really a bummer though. Like, why do we have to try to be better than everyone to be validated? We're all unique and we all have our own skills and original ideas. Sharing humanity shouldn't be a competition, it should be a connection.