Thoughts about judgmental people late tonight.
I think the brains natural defense mechanism to negativity is to lie, mostly to yourself. It does this as it’s trying to protect you from that bad thing.
As children this makes sense because we’re not mentally ready to deal with the complexities of life, but this function persists into adulthood as well.
Every time you make up some story about this thing that has offended you, it’s a lie, but we will believe it as it helps us feel better, or sometimes worse if you’re hard on yourself instead.
Either way. I know it’s harder to be the bigger person and own up to your faults and it’s much easier to just keep the beliefs that serve you even if they’re false. You never have to admit that to yourself anyways.
It seems so problematic, but it’s so commonplace one could argue it’s just human nature to be that way. We never evolved out of it so it clearly has its purpose.
I guess it’s just because it kept us alive. You don’t know a situation? Judge it and survive it.
I have noticed the few people who aren’t this way all felt that there’s more to life than survival or death. So the way they lived wasn’t based on either of those things.
As children this makes sense because we’re not mentally ready to deal with the complexities of life, but this function persists into adulthood as well.
Every time you make up some story about this thing that has offended you, it’s a lie, but we will believe it as it helps us feel better, or sometimes worse if you’re hard on yourself instead.
Either way. I know it’s harder to be the bigger person and own up to your faults and it’s much easier to just keep the beliefs that serve you even if they’re false. You never have to admit that to yourself anyways.
It seems so problematic, but it’s so commonplace one could argue it’s just human nature to be that way. We never evolved out of it so it clearly has its purpose.
I guess it’s just because it kept us alive. You don’t know a situation? Judge it and survive it.
I have noticed the few people who aren’t this way all felt that there’s more to life than survival or death. So the way they lived wasn’t based on either of those things.
