I Won't Judge You

I love Similar Words. I have met/made many friends.

Every one is entitled to his or her own opinion -and more power to them, too.

But why do we judge everybody by the way we express our thoughts? If you don't agree with me on certain things, say so plainly. Don't get "smarmy" with me and tell me to go back to my "education" or refer to my history.

I loved the subject of history when I was a student. I followed things we touched on but never explored on my own. Because I was interested. I shared bits and pieces with others who mentioned a topic or two that I knew about. But (and you knew that was coming) - I never, ever, FOREVER saw or heard anything pertaining to people killing and eating babies to prevent famine.I got sharp-tonged replies telling me to go back to my anthropology studies and my history. Then the Cherokee nation was downgraded, saying it was a "white way" of saying "wannabe". Hey, -no! I take offense! My brother-in-law IS a Cherokee Indian (half) and his father was a chieftain, full-blooded. I am PROUD of this knowledge and won't STAND for any one downgrading him. The Cherokee people were a strong and proud tribe, a credit to their present-day descendants.

If you see something posted that you KNOW is objectionable, question the writer - but don't downgrade their education or their studies of history. I studied both Early World and Modern World History, and a full year of U.S. History.. too. I think I am well-versed enough to know and remember a few things...

But I don't recall beating and eating children on rocks.

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

I have to imagine that regardless of our cultural makeup we probably all had ancestors that did horrible things, horrible things to those they didn't like, or to their neighbors, or their own family members, or children or parents.

Some of my own ancestors departed France in the 17th century at the height of a period of religious persecutions, and from an area regarded as the epicenter of some of Europe's darkest history. I have no idea which of my ancestors were torturers, and which were victims, if any. Some may well have been the ones that lit the fires that burned others at the stake, or been the ones tied to the stakes.

As horribly as some of my ancestors may have misbehaved in the 17th century, I can imagine that there were probably episodes in the 16th, 15th ... centuries that were probably worse.

Thankfully, I don't have to carry the sins of my ancestors, and I can choose to enjoy the gift of freedom and love, thanks to those who escaped and left the horrors behind. And I can pass that love and freedom to those that follow me.

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

@MaryJanine

"Pure Chance" Bingo!

I can so relate.

I've always had a sense of destiny, where I have an appointment to meet up lady destiny; yet, I don't know where or when. As the years roll forward, I'm more convinced that it will be lady destiny finding me rather than me finding her :)

As so many good things for me by pure chance, so many bad things skirted by pure chance, so many bad things I couldn't skirt, by pure chance. But yet, so much seems to have defied the odds.

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@Heartlander You made all those dangerous missions and risked you life over here when the VietNam war was at its height of American outrage/excuse for riots.

I promise, I'll work on it.

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@MaryJanine

:) in the realm of "pure chance", my Vietnam experience was very positive. Like I was elevated by the experience.

I hesitate to say that; personally knowing many that didn't didn't survive.

Some of the human remains recovered in Vietnam over the past few years were of people I knew. Some where "chance" played roles in their deaths.

RobinPhoenix · M

A perfect and as it seems necessary statement from you, my dear sister (Y)

Even though I don't know something about the "killing and eating babies thing, what sounds horrible and cruel to me btw, I understand very well that you and your family were attacked by a member here. And of course you have every right to defend yourself and your loved ones. What you did in a very good way.

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@RobinPhoenix The poster sounded sure of his information, but I just can't picture it. I never saw it or heard it anywhere.

Und you are RIGHT about my family. I loved my brother-in-law from the first und he has always been gut to me, mein sister und his kids. I am (as the Americans might say) "ignorant enough" to be PROUD of this unusual relationship. You would never take him for a Cherokee, or even Indian blood - und he has blue eyes to boot.

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

@MaryJanine, people are assholes. 🤷‍♂️ Don't let them get you down.

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MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@LookingForIt987 But, HE was the one who brought it up about "the beating and eating", not me. I thought he was teasing, so I made a joke about it, and - WOW! We were OFF AND RUNNNG!

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

@MaryJanine I guess that goes back to my original statement: people are assholes. 🤷‍♂️ Hopefully you'll have enough positive interactions - here and elsewhere - to more than make up for the jerks you encounter. :)

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@LookingForIt987 Thanks for your good wishes. And, yes, I have more sweet people than I do trolls on a daily basis. There is a nice way to ask a question to anybody who writes anything here - you don't have to be silly or sarcastic. NOBODY appreciates that.

luctoretemergo · 61-69, M

Your frankly too good for this place!
😊

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@luctoretemergo What do you mean? I say what I believe in and what I feel. And I don't appreciate ANYONE sneering at my brother-in-law - that is why I was angry over this subject. He is a wonderful person who has been nothing but sweet and kind to us all.

luctoretemergo · 61-69, M

I mean nothing bad - just praising your candor/honesty/etc. That is all.@MaryJanine

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@luctoretemergo Thanks for your notice. The poster I referred to made fun of my education and told me to go back to my books. Then he got on my brother-in-law and made mock of the Cherokees. As the song says, "So proud you live...so proud you die...….."

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