Have you ever?

Shown someone too much kindness and forgave too much of their selfish behavior in your friendship? Then one day you realize you are hurting yourself masochisticly, because you don't value your own heart and feelings? You have to value what you give and have lines on what you'll except in any relationship.

This is such a hard one for me. I take after my mom. I need to stop hurting myself through my tolerate of other people I care for hurting me. This is part of my story.. my personal journey.. all my true friends know who they are, and I will always be grateful for what you habe given me.❤️

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NickiHijab · F

Yeah, I think because I was supposedly the "strong" friend or the "well balanced" of the lot, it became a sort of self fulfilling prophecy, I withdrew any kind of struggle which didn't help in the long run. Because I kept my shit suppressed, I was quick to help out friends when I could. It helped me feel better seeing them be better. It's carthatic in ways and even more meaningful when it's someone you care about.
Although, in hindsight I was far too patient and actually in being patient, sure I was helping in a lot of ways but I was also enabling toxic patterns to the extent that I was giving too much of myself to some friends at my own expense. It was a learning curve though because it's helped me to learn and maintain the practice of asserting boundaries and now I'm rebuilding myself without feeling guilty.

Eclipsed · M

@NickiHijab this.. you nailed it.