How would you feel?

If someone you deeply loved asked you not to talk to certain people you were already friends with? Has that ever happened to you? Tell me about your experiences. Even if you were the person asking them not to interact with them?

It happened to me once.. I'm ashamed to say I gave in to make her happy. Though the people I stopped taking to I wasn't really friends with anyway, so it was relatively easy. She was just threatened by them for whatever reason. I am not sure what I would have done had they been genuine friends. I would like to think then I would not have capitulated.. but I was so in love I can't be certain I would have stood my ground.

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JerseyGal · 51-55, F

This did happen to me years ago in a relationship. He tried to keep me from my friends I had prior to the relationship, along away from my family. I was to only speak to his family or friends he allowed me to. He also turned mentally and verbally abusive. It did not last long because I swore to myself to never stay in any relationship, no matter if it was just a friendship, if the person was abusive in any way.

Eclipsed · M

@JerseyGal yes.. I think if one doesn't know the harm it can truly do, they often buckle to keep the peace. But its a lot like paying a ransom for a hostage. Once the kidnappers realize they can get away with it and benefit.. why would they ever stop doing it?

JerseyGal · 51-55, F

@Eclipsed
Exactly. Many end up staying because they know no other way, or they don't know where to go.
I saw what was happening and got out. I truly feared fory life as I was threatened. Changed my number, went sort of into hiding at the time.
It's such a toxic state to live in. 😔