Helping people and lending an ear to close ones gives me value

I mean it is embarrassing to admit but it is the truth...
I feel like my value is restored when I feel like I am being of help to others, or listening to someone in need to talk... this behavior aligns with my values so much it almost feels freeing, like I'm in harmony with the universe, like I'm fulfilling my purpose in life.
Is it the gratitude that touches me? I doubt so, for I still feel the same if I see that I'm helpful but that person is ungrateful. (Perhaps not as much but it makes me happy still.)

Sometimes I think it is bad to feel this way, but perhaps it is just the way I am.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

There’s a fine line. If being helpful makes you happy, (and it should), but not if it’s the ONLY thing that makes you happy.

We need more helpful and less ‘not my problem,’ but make sure you find value in other areas. I’m quite confident you can.

Gratitude cannot be expected. I think at least some of that is that we hate needing help, and are offended that it’s true. That anger can be turned outward.