How do you feel about helping others succeed at something you failed yourself?

I’m sure a lot of you know about the crab mentality.

If I can’t have it, neither can you.

But have you ever felt like, you wanted them to succeed, but you personally couldn’t be emotionally there to be involved in their succession because your loss still feels too close to the heart. Is it just me? 🤧

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rrraksamam · 31-35, M

I don't have that crab mentality.
I remember encouraging some people years ago, to become like me, hell, even better than me.

I do have one regret: Some of them asked me to teach them something at the time, and I did try doing just that. But I had to move away shortly after, and it remained an unfinished business. I know at least one person who held a grudge against me for that. They really looked up to me, and when the news broke that I was leaving, they felt that I had done so selfishly, without caring about them.
If only they knew my story and the circumstances...