How do you feel about helping others succeed at something you failed yourself?

I’m sure a lot of you know about the crab mentality.

If I can’t have it, neither can you.

But have you ever felt like, you wanted them to succeed, but you personally couldn’t be emotionally there to be involved in their succession because your loss still feels too close to the heart. Is it just me? 🤧

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scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

An older co-worker of mine once told me how he used to apply for a job which he sensed was dedicated to an intern's relative who was actually not fitting in there. Then two weeks into the job that guy called him asking him for job-related advice. After the third question my co-worker revealed himself as the competitor who didn't get the job, and due to the many questions he sensed that guy to not fit into his job and that it was all an intern thing. That guy gave up again shortly after.

MysterySci · 22-25, F

@scooogy I mean, its very challenging to be in that situation. You want to help but its complicated because you’re still kinda mourning your loss :/