I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior

@Mamapolo2016 but they hurt their love

my mom loves dad so much & he always uses her his punching bag

@dalfo I am so sorry. Sadly, the punching bag gets so tired and so convinced by the abuse that she thinks she deserves it.

About all you can do is talk to her lovingly and tell her you want to leave because you can't stand watching it any more.

@Mamapolo2016 yeah but i want to give every possible happiness to my mom won't let her to suffer

@dalfo Are you the youngest child?

@Mamapolo2016 yes

@dalfo If you're the last one left at home, you have a little leverage.

There are many reasons why women stay...fear of more violence, worry about how they'll manage if they leave, what about the kids.

If your parents are from a culture that accepts and excuses domestic violence, you're going to have a tough time persuading her to leave.

Barring something major, he won't stop.

In your shoes, I would do my best to get out and have an apartment so she has somewhere to run to if she needs it.

Will she talk about the situation with you?

[@Mamapolo2016 well personally I'm independent & can afford anything but i feel bad for mom & maybe you're right mom won't leave her maybe she is habitual or maybe don't know what?

@dalfo It's very possible she loves him and worse, it's possible he loves her.

It's a terrible tangle. Your best move would be to contact a domestic violence agency near you (if you're in USA, there's one nearby) and ask for their input.

In the meantime all you can do is keep telling her he has no right to hurt her. If you're still living at home, do think about getting out. It's not healthy for you, either.

& problem is her will won't emotional blackmail her.i want her to get ready to move by herself because i think dad had done enough & now i should respect & accept her desires

@Mamapolo2016 I'm not living at home & yeah mom love him i mean sometimes i feel that mom like it to be happen or she don't trust me

@dalfo I wasn't talking about emotional blackmail,but your clear statement that 'this is wrong and I can't pretend it's okay so I have to leave.' Which then gives her the option of staying or coming with you. Or of coming to you if she's frightened or hurt.

She is your mother and you want the best for her. I completely understand that.

@dalfo I suppose there are situations where the abused person likes it - or has at least grown confortable with it. Just let her know she can come to you when she's had enough and treat her the way she deserves. I wish both of you luck.

@Mamapolo2016 she knows it all my siblings has cleared this thing & all i want to know what can i do for her as she'll never leave dad?or i should let her face it or don't know

@dalfo That depends entirely on you. I have seen situations when children have said, I can't stand it, so I have to divorce mysrlf from the entire situation - from Dad because he hurts her and from Mom because she lets it happen.

I don't think I could do that, but it is a clear message of wrongness.

@Mamapolo2016 thank you so much i hope one day mom will

@dalfo Me too.

@dalfo am so sorry to hear that had happened with your mom... And think she used to it... Due to her unconditional love and trust towards your dad won't let her stay away with him... Only you can do is to be with her and let her know that her daughter is always with her...