I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior

Sometimes when someone keeps in contact with you despite not really hitting it off in a big way, do you ever start to wonder what they really want from you?

(Yes I'm thinking about a particular case in mind but it's weird posting the whole story out in the open)

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wildheart9

Hmm I don't think about what they want from me, I think about what I'm giving them. Maybe they like the kind things I say to them when they're going through a hard time. Or maybe they just thought of me at that particular moment and they smiled. A range of reasons :)

AgniousPrime · 31-35, M

Exactly! When it's about something kind I can do for them, I understand. In my case, I'm neither being kind to them because they're going through a hard time nor am I being mean or what. I'm just being friendly and chatty in general but from this person's posts, I'm wondering if they are expecting something from me and are just waiting for me to start it without being prompted. Or maybe they're expecting it, assuming that I'll go down that road eventually but are not going to come out and directly ask for it.

wildheart9

Oh jeez, so you're thinking this person is waiting for you to make the first move? That's gives me headaches! Lol I usually tell the other person in a huff "well I can't read minds!" Lol. You know what? Don't wonder :P let it happen in his/her own time while you carry on doing you. At least you're being your normal friendly self rather than flipping out based on assumptions!

AgniousPrime · 31-35, M

Apparently you CAN read minds! You pretty much figured out what I was talking about (I think you did anyway). So basically you're suggesting that I continue to not disturb the stasis.

wildheart9

Lol yeah why not, just leave him/her be since you're not hurting anyone just being who you are. And being friendly and chatty isn't giving them the wrong impression, so I don't see the harm! I find I can get quite caught up in trying to figure out what the other person's intentions are...but in the end it's just a waste of my energy lol

AgniousPrime · 31-35, M

But then wouldn't it save time if we just got to the point?

wildheart9

Ugh yes I 100% second that. Which is why I become frustrated trying to figure out WHY they won't come out with it already! Lol. Hence the "oh well, I'll carry on with my life" attitude I adopt

AgniousPrime · 31-35, M

Apparently it's working for you so I think I'll give it a try and see if it works for me too