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Sometimes we need to grieve over things that make us sad ….. Grieving is not a bad thing if it doesn’t take long … it helps us heal …

Unless, you have no reason to be sad, in which case please talk to a therapist …

I think you can answer yourself best as you know yourself better than all.
Here is what I think on pain and suffering...
Pain is a teacher and old friend. It enriches you in ways you don't see. Keep your heart open, even for the pain, let the pain pass through and away. When the rain passes, you have the promise of the sun - it is natural. If you never feel the pain you will take the happiness for granted, which will waste away your life. Accept what pain teaches, and apply your will to ensure that your pain passes through the day without defining you. You choose what defines you, and it shapes your reality. When you open your heart to everything, anything will make you stronger because your soul knows what you are made of. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel the emotion before you let it go. That way, when you release it.. you will feel lighter :) When you are in pain, you can use something to ease letting it out. May be breathing, stretching, yoga, shower, hobbies, chores, anything... doing something will transfer some of the tension away. Many of us try to block and deny how we feel.. you don't have to do that. You only have to be honest with yourself without getting attached to the emotion... it will come and go like the wind.. but you are still there and you decide which direction your mind takes :)
Wishing you a safe journey of self discovery and many harmonious moments on the way :)

Do what makes you happy regardless of what people around you think but without hurting others and yourself

think about the joys your kids bring you, and all the other people and beautiful things in your life.

Turn it into a strength

Don't indulge in it too little or too much.
Live in the present. You learn from it if you can, put more value on finding reasons to be grateful, look forward to the moments of the mind at ease that surely will come.

There's no quick fix, just a new perspective.

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