I Hate Fake People

I recently just cut ties with a person I thought was a good friend with emotional intimacy issues. She made a comment to one of my good friends at a party that I overheard by accident. She basically told him that his goofball antics, though very similar (almost identical) to my own, wouldn't be tolerated because he hadn't done anything major for her. Yes, alcohol was involved, most of which he had brought so everyone could have fun, not that it's needed to have fun. I'm having a lot of trouble interpreting her comments as anything other than "you have to do things for me to be my friend" and the like. I wasn't drinking a lot, but I waited until I was sober before I allowed an emotional response just incase sober me could interpret it as something else. I couldn't. The final nail in the coffin for the relationship was when she said "I have to control your drinking so nothing bad happens." That is a direct quote from a person who has agreed to be the designated driver countless times and gotten so drunk that she couldn't walk let alone drive while telling the bartenders to cut me off at 2 drinks so "she won't puke again." I'm trying very hard to not get extremely angry at this moment in time. This was a relationship that went on for almost 4 years. I feel like I wasted so much time and energy on a person who is completely fake in everything. I feel ashamed that I didn't see how bad she projected onto me for so long. I feel hurt that all the joking pokes at me weren't just a friendship jest but actual criticisms of my very being, which was barely tolerated because I did things for her. That all the times she refused to help me with favors, despite all the labor intensive favors I did for her without question, weren't from a lack of time but from an undeserved sense of entitlement. I feel so deeply betrayed by a person I'm now realizing was never real.