I Believe In Equality

Both women and men are equal. Sometimes ego creeps in and when one feels they are superior to the other relationship often fails. The space is shared by two and we need to give each other their deserved space. If we can't we fail. It's not about finding the right person for ourselves but being the right person for the other .

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solitaire · 41-45, F

Does your wife cook at home and do the dishes?

SW-User

@solitaire Unfortunately I can't answer your question. I stay alone. I did mistakes in the past and I am trying my best to become a better person. I know I have miles to go, but I'll try. For your question, cooking and doing the dishes is not the responsibility of wife alone. Everyone has dreams and a relationship becomes beautiful when we support each other to achieve their dreams. In the process there are responsibilities too and both should share it so that it won't be too much of a burden to the other. But I am not the right person to make statements on this. May be someone who is successful in their relationship can advice.

solitaire · 41-45, F

I asked because I’m from India and it is a male-dominant environment

SW-User

@solitaire Ok, I understand.

solitaire · 41-45, F

You’re from India? I just hate Indian men and men in general

SW-User

@solitaire yeah I'm from India. So I guess you hate me too :)

solitaire · 41-45, F

Yep

SW-User

@solitaire :(

solitaire · 41-45, F

What mistake did you make with your wife? Extra marital affair? Did you beat her?

SW-User

@solitaire nothing of that sort . She is a good girl and I'm not a very bad guy. I would like to keep it personal and not distribute my story around. I appreciate if you could also focus on your life. Thank you.

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@SW-User Interesting. I'm curious what you consider a "good girl" to be?

SW-User

@Phire1 Hmm.. I don't want to generalize as per my opinion. There were some difference of opinion between us. If I talk, normal tendency is to bias myself to be right. I don't want to do that. We both could have handled it better, I believe . I can only accept that there is scope for improvement on my side. I can only accept my mistakes. I don't want to point out someone else's mistake when they are not around. It's not in my control to correct others . The best I can do is to correct myself. Sometimes we learn things the tough way. I don't want to discuss intricate details of my personal life in a public forum. That will be unfair to her as well . I don't think I need to, because I am not looking for any relationships here. I myself have decided to shut that door on me.