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Harsh...




.... But true. 😜

You two are either not intelligent, or are Marxists. You are not British patriots.

All you communists can do is call names. No rational thought at all.

@FlyingHome. A muslim terrorist ran over a crowd of people with a van, he killed four and injured many others, don't you think you should be calling him all the names under the sun? Rather that calling someone who is outraged by this ongoing carnage a fascit bitch?

@berangere: Good point. These types lambast the messenger of facts while giving a free pass to the killers.

@Carissimi: And this is UNBELIEVABLE,shuch willful blindness!!

@berangere: It's either willful blindness or they support this carnage. No rational (and decent) person, would ever attack those outraged at these cold blooded murders. They are either so brainwashed or, as you said willfully blind, which makes them complicit in the attacks themselves.

@Carissimi: Yes,they dont see WHAT they don't want to see.

@Carissimi:

@berangere: They invest their own sense of self in an opinion, and opinions change. If you disagree with their opinions, even providing facts, they feel like it's a personal attack on them. You have to have a certain level of maturity to distinguish opinion from your own person.

There are things I don't want to believe because it's a very hard thing to find that what you believed, your whole life, is not true. You essentially lived your life under an illusion. This happened to me in my 50s when my whole paradigm about men was shattered. I cried it was so shocking to me. It took a long time to get over that, and it has changed my attitude about relationships with men.

You are right it is a proof of maturity when you can learn to see another point of view and not take it as a personnal attack,when you can agree to disagree and still see what is good about the other person and are able to discuss other things you might agree on.
As for men,like me you were unlucky enough to have fallen in the clutches of a narcissist.Not all men are like this,I could have been very happy had I chosen others who loved me and whom sadly I was not attracted to.

@berangere: Even though this is true, I was speaking of something else. I always thought men were like "A," and after 50-odd years, I found this was not the case. They are "X." My whole paradigm of men was shattered. Everything I believed about them was false. They are (and think and feel) very different from women, and it was a terrible shock. I had no idea.

Here is the link:

http://www.straightdopedad.com/men-sex-7-things-every-woman-should-know-about-how-their-boyfriend-or-husband-thinks-about-sex/

After I read it, I asked men that I knew if it was true, and they said "yes." I never knew.

@Carissimi: I guess it is nature trying to keep the species alive.Yes I often thought that the main thing men have on their mind is sex.Men and women are so different on that point that I often wonder how they ever get together and stay together.
Narcissists actually behave that way in an exagerated manner and without the integrity to hold them back.

@berangere: I always believed that men loved like women do. If I love someone, I hardly notice other men. I didn't know that men are always fantasizing about other women, and don't about their own partners, or that every woman they see, it's " would I do her?" It's horrible. I don't think I could be with a man knowing this.

@Carissimi: I giess if the man is loving towards you and a good compagnion and you know he is faithful and loyal,you have to accept those things.I know I would be quite put off if I found a cache of pornography belonging to my "beloved" husband! I am sure that has caused a lot of rows between couples and even break up.The woman would feel cheated.
I am sitting here trying to write and some idiots are going around revving their cars and doing burn up, they have doctored their cars' engines so they make as much noise as possible,this is another thing men do quite naturally that women drivers would not do.I think male hormones have a lot to do with it!

@berangere: They do. It's natural for men. I don't know. Now that I know the truth, I'd feel uneasy being with a man because I know how they think. That's just me, and that and my personal experience has put me off. I suppose I've lost respect for them.

As a species. Yeah, as strange as that sounds, I've lost respect for men as a species, even knowing its nature. Go figure.

@Carissimi: I can quite believe that you have.I too do not think greatly about them in general, but recognise there are nice ones in spite of their natural tendencies.I don't want a man in my life (nor a woman), because I cherish my freedom and autonomy far too much,having lived with a toxic narcissist for seven years,I could not take another chance.I do not want a man,period and not even a good one!

@berangere: I understand. I would like one, but I don't want one. I'm not anti-man, just can't deal with all the drama.

@Carissimi: I am not anti man either as I recognise there are nice ones,my neighbour who died three weeks ago was a lovely man and had been with Pat his wife for over 50 years and I know of other loving couples,but sadly I tend to be attracted to the wrong ones,so I prefer to remain alone and enjoy being so.

@berangere: It would feel strange being part of a couple again. I think we can be alone too long. We get used to living our own way.

@Carissimi: Exactly!

@Carissimi: To illustrate what we have ben talking about LOL!

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