Becoming a single dad was tough at first

Becoming a single dad was tough at first,I was 24 and my daughters were 5 and 3 years old at the time. Ex girlfriend left while I was at work and mom called that my daughters were at home alone which she did pick them up after coming to check on them. I made it through with help of my mom and 2 brothers. My friends helped out too. Never found out why my ex girlfriend left, her stuff was gone. It took time to adjust to it until I met my wife whom was a single mom of a 5 year old son. She helped me through it after her ex boyfriend did the same thing

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JollyRoger · 70-79, M

"Tough" is a good label for it! We humans know that we can communicate - we do it every day about the least important things. But we most often ignore to talk about the things that hurt us. Why? My guess is that by not 'bringing up' the things that we or others need to change in our relationships, we: 1/ just procrastinate on being responsible; 2/ are afraid of hurting our special-someone's feelings; 3/ we are simply insensitive to our own actions and their effects on other 'special' people.
The funny--sad paradox though is that we can talk to a stranger about these things (like you coming here to tell us) but doing that doesn't resolve the problem(s).
As a solution: Instead of 'hiding', instead of 'ignoring', instead of 'crying on someone else's shoulder', seek out how you can learn to communicate effectively - there are teachers! Your first lesson is to be honest with yourself about what you did, didn't do or want to do.