What challenges you?
What obstacles do you face daily, yearly, or personally?
36-40, M
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Summergirly · 26-30, F
Overcoming abuse from my dad until I was 15, overcoming bullying in my schooling years, I just moved out, supporting myself w/ a minimum wage waitressing job, social anxiety with work and school, extreme anxiety in general, flashbacks, no parents, getting good grades in college, commuting to college, etc
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LysanderFremont · 36-40, M
If I may share this with you cause I feel like I know where you are coming from, I had been abused by my half-brother since I was 3-9 without my parents even knowing (on top of my parents yelling and threatening violence). Even now, when it comes to confrontation, even though I am physically able to take care of myself, I shrink and my mental state is back to when I was a kid and unable to defend myself.
You being able to support yourself at the moment through that? Totally bad ass. I'm still living with a roommate and almost there to be self-sustaining (and then figuring out where to go from there). I will say, giving a face to anxiety helps.
Whenever you feel anxious, picture someone or something, an ugly creature or an 'authority' figure from your past trying to force you to think/do something that is causing your anxiety. Then, with your mind, fight back with reason and calm. If there are so many thoughts in your mind, contend with each thought one at a time. Find an answer for every single part that comes out, to the point where you grow tired of being right and just want to move on with your life.
There are programs out there to help deal with your anxieties further, but for now, take a gander at each question, one at a time. It'll help with the bigger picture.
You being able to support yourself at the moment through that? Totally bad ass. I'm still living with a roommate and almost there to be self-sustaining (and then figuring out where to go from there). I will say, giving a face to anxiety helps.
Whenever you feel anxious, picture someone or something, an ugly creature or an 'authority' figure from your past trying to force you to think/do something that is causing your anxiety. Then, with your mind, fight back with reason and calm. If there are so many thoughts in your mind, contend with each thought one at a time. Find an answer for every single part that comes out, to the point where you grow tired of being right and just want to move on with your life.
There are programs out there to help deal with your anxieties further, but for now, take a gander at each question, one at a time. It'll help with the bigger picture.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
LysanderFremont · 36-40, M
@TheFlowerThatBloomsInAdversity: Thank you for the inspiration! ;D
JupiterDreams · 31-35
LysanderFremont · 36-40, M
The attempt is important. Attempt sort of sounds like jump, right? Or better yet, leap(t). I know I am cheating but just phonetically sound it in your head. Attempt, leap. Attempt, leap.
Have you ever leap between those parking bumpers in the parking lots that are on the ground? Just playing around, leaping from one bumper to the next? Have you ever missed your mark and tripped up? Fell maybe? Hurt, probably. I had done it. Thought I sprained my ankle once but just bruised it. What can I say, I do not like pain.
But have you ever leaped with a heavy bag on? Or carrying three sandbags in your arms? No? I suggest you do not do this because it is horrendously a bad idea.
You have a lot of baggage you are dealing with. That is okay. Financial, family, those are pretty big heavy mental baggage. Attempting to be happy while you have those on your shoulders is a challenge.
However, I am glad that you are making those leaps to understand how heavy those challenges are. Not saying you still can not be happy with that weight on, but once you take care of those that are weighing you down, those leaps to happiness shall bring you all around the neighborhood.
Have you ever leap between those parking bumpers in the parking lots that are on the ground? Just playing around, leaping from one bumper to the next? Have you ever missed your mark and tripped up? Fell maybe? Hurt, probably. I had done it. Thought I sprained my ankle once but just bruised it. What can I say, I do not like pain.
But have you ever leaped with a heavy bag on? Or carrying three sandbags in your arms? No? I suggest you do not do this because it is horrendously a bad idea.
You have a lot of baggage you are dealing with. That is okay. Financial, family, those are pretty big heavy mental baggage. Attempting to be happy while you have those on your shoulders is a challenge.
However, I am glad that you are making those leaps to understand how heavy those challenges are. Not saying you still can not be happy with that weight on, but once you take care of those that are weighing you down, those leaps to happiness shall bring you all around the neighborhood.
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
Traffic daily , stressful job , my mother passed away and being single , wanting to get married and start a family but having no luck with men in real life
LysanderFremont · 36-40, M
I understand you. My life around that age frame was not great, especially when it came to being deployed.
But I tell ya, there is so much to explore in Life and at the moment, what you need to explore most if yourself. Find a job that'll work with you, rather than against. Explore some areas about yourself you have not yet. That dude will be there, so will that family. But ensure you yourself is so complete, it'll feel like you do not even need one.
But I tell ya, there is so much to explore in Life and at the moment, what you need to explore most if yourself. Find a job that'll work with you, rather than against. Explore some areas about yourself you have not yet. That dude will be there, so will that family. But ensure you yourself is so complete, it'll feel like you do not even need one.
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
LadyWioness · 56-60, F
I'm hearing impaired, and although I'm a lip reader, I have issues sometimes talking to people on the phone. Sometimes I want to cry.
LysanderFremont · 36-40, M
If I may offer this piece of advice: Cry. Cry as hard as you would like, as long as you like. Seriously. Take a moment through the week, where you are private and where you will not be bothered and let it out. Cry into a pillow or a stuffed animal. If you have a friend that you trust, completely trust, tell them you want to cry and have to let it out on a specific time and day.
Your friend will raise an eyebrow at you but if they can be trusted, they will trust what you desire.
When that great cry is over, hug yourself. Hug yourself big time. Look online for ways to make communication through the phone easier for you (especially if it is for a company that deals with your bills). If its family and friends, again, research. Knowledge. You got this far and are using this online service right now. When the time comes, you will be able to use your voice again or have the resources available that could even better your hearing. Amazing advances in technology nowadays.
Good skill to ya.
Your friend will raise an eyebrow at you but if they can be trusted, they will trust what you desire.
When that great cry is over, hug yourself. Hug yourself big time. Look online for ways to make communication through the phone easier for you (especially if it is for a company that deals with your bills). If its family and friends, again, research. Knowledge. You got this far and are using this online service right now. When the time comes, you will be able to use your voice again or have the resources available that could even better your hearing. Amazing advances in technology nowadays.
Good skill to ya.
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when people doubt me
LysanderFremont · 36-40, M
Reminds me of a story of a woman whose punishment was that she'll always tell the truth, yet no one would ever believe her.
The question is: Do you doubt yourself? Do you believe in yourself? And if so, does that belief require other people to believe in it also?
It is difficult when it comes to giving people advice and they doubt you, this is true. However, if they doubt you when it comes to school, or you achieving something you desire, their mental facilities do not matter in your ventures. You got this.
The question is: Do you doubt yourself? Do you believe in yourself? And if so, does that belief require other people to believe in it also?
It is difficult when it comes to giving people advice and they doubt you, this is true. However, if they doubt you when it comes to school, or you achieving something you desire, their mental facilities do not matter in your ventures. You got this.