What would you do?

Some guy followed me on Instagram the other day, I looked through his profile and deemed him harmless so I followed back. In his profile bio he mentioned his career, children, and girlfriend. This morning, he messaged me, saying where he had found my username (on a site that's commonly used for dating, though that isn't its only function) and said something to the effect of "I just couldn't help but notice how good looking you were." I stated that I was interested in flirting, to which he questioned why I was on the site. I simply said I use it for entertainment, and asked why he wanted to message me. He said something along the lines of "I thought that's what people did but I guess not," which didn't make much sense and was incredibly vague. So I told him that led me to believe his intentions were likely less than decent, considering he was so defensive. He denied it, followed with a "but whatever." I asked if his girlfriend knew that he was messaging women and commenting on their looks. He read the message and blocked me right after, therefore I feel it's safe to assume she doesn't.
Since he made mention of her in his bio, I looked at her profile. She posts about how great he is frequently, likely oblivious to his behavior online. As someone who was cheated on - and in such an "obvious" way - this saddens me a little.
I know it's not really any of my business, but should I let her know about this? If it were me, I know I'd appreciate it. It may hurt in the moment, but I'd be glad that I didn't waste my life with a guy who can't keep himself from hitting on women online.

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JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M

You barely know him and you don’t know her.

His entire life may be fake. If you involve yourself, you could get ensnared in something you hadn’t prepared for.

You did the right thing. Just move on.

helenS · 36-40, F

@JoeyFoxx Yes, exactly. The whole thing can be a plot.

KatieKatze · 22-25, F

@JoeyFoxx I see what you're saying, I just can't help but be emphatic. I seriously doubt it's some big "plot," though. Just one of the many guys online who thinks they can harmlessly flirt with girls without their significant other knowing. I don't think I have anything to gain or lose form this, I just feel sorry for the poor woman you may waste her life on a guy like this.

JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M

I understand your intentions.

But you are assuming the following about this “poor woman” :
- she is real
- she is naive and unknowing
- she needs your help

You couldn’t possibly know any of the above, particularly in a virtual universe.

We should all spend less time worrying about strangers and spend more time worrying about ourselves and those we love who likely also love us in return.

If this “poor woman” needs help, she will likely find it on her own.

@KatieKatze

KatieKatze · 22-25, F

I would imagine I come from a different background/perspective than you, then.
As someone in education, we're taught to take every opportunity to help someone when possible. Sure, that usually applies to students, but it's not limited to them. Again, I understand the perspective you're taking. Yet, even if she's not real, this is all a plot, or whatever - it's just an instinct of mine to get involved when I genuinely believe there's an issue.

There's actually a television show - which you can also find on YouTube - that goes over moral situations like this. It's called What Would You Do, if anyone here is interested in it.

JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M

There's a difference between offering to help and naively sticking one's nose in without having all the details.

In life, it is a bit more obvious to determine the veracity of a situation. In the anonymous universe of virtual social networks, it's not as obvious.

You posted a question asking for perspective. I am not the only one to offer a response like mine.

You have clearly made up your own mind, and evidently, you've made assessments about me as well.

Far be it from me to instruct you, but it's curious that you would ask for advice only to ignore it.

@KatieKatze

KatieKatze · 22-25, F

I would have ignored the situation had I not been involved. If you have not been cheated on, or been a part of an unfaithful relationship, I'm not sure you could fully understand the situation. I've said again and again that I understand where you are coming from, and all you have to say is that it's a pointless ambition. I do not care if the woman on the other end isn't "real," or if it's just one big game. If you ignored everyone going through a tough situation, like this, because of some fear that they're fake, you'd pass up on those who may really need help.

JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M

@KatieKatze go watch the Friends episode where Joey catches his uncle cheating.

Yes. It’s a sitcom, but stuff like that happens all the time.

Not all cheaters are terrible human beings and not all cheating victims are naive and innocent.

In your own words, you stated that this is none of your business. So, I am curious why you feel the need to insert yourself into something with hardly any information